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writes:I recently found out that I'm suffering from depression and anxiety and that I have for a long time now (for a few years). My boyfriend broke up with me because I got frustrated about some details of getting home, got in a mood and walked out on his family without saying goodbye. He also didn't like the attitude I had about not wanting advice from his mother. I've been told by my doctor that the way I acted was probably due to the depression and my anxiety. How can I tell my boyfriend that this was the way I acted without him thinking that I'm just using it as an excuse? I really want to get back with my boyfriend. I know it'll take time, but do you think that he'll be able to see why I acted the way I did and give me a second chance knowing that I'll change now I'm on medication?
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reader, karinana  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 I have suffered from depression and I can definitely sympathize with your problem. I have trouble with friendships sometimes because I tend to neglect people when I am depressed and they take it personally. It can be very difficult to tell someone about your depression without it sounding like an excuse. I have found that it works best when you sincerely apologize and tell them how hard you are working on being a better friend/girlfriend. Some people understand and some people don't. Depression is a complex thing and if someone hasn't suffered from it themselves, they tend to just think it's the same as "being sad" and it is SO different from that. Unfortunately, I don't think there is a miracle answer to winning him back. Take your medication and just work on being the best person you can be.
Also, from experience- every once in a while you may feel like you "don't need" the medication anymore. Take it anyway! I have skipped it before thinking I felt fine and ended up worse than ever!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Give him time to clear his head then try to set it right again.But in the future, you might not want to complain to him or act all moody around him, guys hate that.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (26 April 2007):
 It was insensitive of him to walk out when you needed him most but I can understand how he saw the depression as you just being moody and not easy to live with. From the outside, people don't understand and it's your job, now you know the reasons, to get back to him and let him know why you acted that way.
If he wants you back, you can work things out and hopefully keep your problems under control. However, he may not want to come back and you will have to accept that. Whatever the reason he left, he went and he may want to stick with that. I hope he wants what you want and you work through it together.
More to the point, I wish you all the best with your problems, I hope you can get them under control and they don't ruin any other part of your life as they already have ruined this relationship.
Good luck
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