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writes:ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months febuary 7th and me and him want to have sex on Valentine's day but my mom won't let me have a boyfriend or even close to have sex but anyways, he wants to make it perfect because it is my first and his second and i don't know what to tell him please help me out here. melly belly Reply to this Question
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reader, depaiva  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Your first time should be special and you should be ready for it, mentally, physically and spiritually. I know at your age the last thing you want is to be told not to do it. No one can make that decision but yourself. Your mom has your best interests at heart and she's been your age and probably had the same issues you're faced with, so she knows what your going through. Your relationship with thing guy is still very short and you shouldn't rush into anything. You say it's he's second time-do you know why he left the first girl he had sex with?And do you know 100% that he won't leave you once you gave the one thing you can never get back-your virginity. It's not just you will be giving this guy, it's the most special thing a girl has and the person you give it to should be just as special. And you talk about having sex and not making love... Your first time should be about making love, you want to remember your first time for the rest of your life and you don't want to me ashamed of it.So think hard before you make this VERY IMPORTANT and hard decision as it will probably be the hardest decision you'll ever make.Above all be true to yourself and every other decision in life will be easier. Good Luck
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reader, cd206  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Sex will be special whatever day of the year you do it but it sounds to me like you're using your mom as an excuse to cover up how scared you are about it. If you really wanted to have sex you'd find a way and it just seems to me that you're maybe not ready but feel under pressure from your boyfriend. If you do decide to have sex with your boyfriend at any stage make sure you're ready and keep it safe.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (1 February 2007):
 It sounds like he wants to make it perfect for him, anyway. What a line. Let your boyfriend buy you some flowers or chocolates, or take you roller skating. Save the passion until you're older and understand what "having sex" is all about.
Tell him this: "Keep your "Johnson" in your drawers until I'm good and ready. . . which may be 3 years or more. If you can wait that long, great. If not, have a nice life."
Remember this: Moms do know best.
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