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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years but I feel so far apart from him, he goes to college halfway across the country so is only back for summer and the odd weekends. When ever we are together we just argue, disagree and spend half the time in a mood with one another, when we first met we were both care free but sacrificed other friends for each other, now I spend so much time with his best friend while he is away I feel more attracted to his friend than I do to my boyfriend. He is so close to my family and they keep saying "he is the best you will ever get" but I have only just turned 18 but yet when we are apart we do appear to miss each other but when we are together we either argue or just sit in silence. Would appreciate peoples opinions!
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 I think the main issue here is your unhappiness with your boyfriend. That needs to be addressed before anything else. You said yourself that you're only 18, and I will leave it up to you whether or not you agree that he'd be the best you could ever get. Or if he's the last person you're interested in being with.
Being attracted to his best friend puts you in such a bad position, and kudos to you for not acting on that. I'd argue that it's normal given the time you're spending with him, and that your boyfriend is away at school most of the time. What you need to figure out is if you truly have feelings for him, or if you're simply reaching out because you're unhappy in your relationship.
Basically... if you're unhappy to the point where it can't be fixed, you need to end the relationship. If you can (and want to) salvage it, you need to talk to your boyfriend and lay it all on the table. It wont be easy, but it's definitely possibly to make a relationship work when there is distance between you. Unfortunately I can't tell you which choice to make, but I do wish you luck!
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (18 June 2012):
 Run off with his best friend..,.
Ha! Don't do that pet.
If you don't like spending time with him then you are not happy, you either need to break up or have a massive chat with him.
"air out your smalls"
Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels because
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Boys have feelings too, I know right! I didn't think so either. Apparently they do though. So yes they know when they are getting the cold shoulder, yes they hate arguing, yes they have feelings for us.
If it doesnt work, break up pet, there's plenty more fish in the sea, just don't break up with the shark then swim with the dolphin because you should never go out with a boyfriends friend.
Good luck x
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