Should I call her in a week (or two) and see if she wants to try dating again? If so, what do I say?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i am a lesbian I have been with my girlfriend nearly three months. Its long distance so we've not met in person yet but we have spoke on the phone and email. She told me i was her new girlfriend within two days of talking to me. Everything was fine at first. But she would go onto the dating site whilst talking to me on a different site which i didn't like because why go on that site when she has found me? she told me she was't talking to anyone else then she said she was talking as friends on the site. We had a few fallouts because she said i upset her that i didn't trust. Because the other day she had gone offline but the site she was still online but she said that she had gone offline and she thought i thought she was talking to someone else. This was two weeks ago we had a small fallout but two days later i thought we sorted it out. She said i don't want to go through that again and lets move forward and i'm here to stay forever. Everything seemed ok again until five days ago. We were chatting online and she just told me she wants to be friends. She said it was because of her religion and she was saying how its a sin that she is with another girl. She is very religious and her family don't accept she is gay. She mentioned to me a while ago she shouldn't be with me but she loved me. I phoned her to ask if she'd like to give another try and she said she can't. I asked her if it was to do with before meaning when we'd had small fallout. She said it wasn't to do with that and i'd done nothing wrong. But i think its to do with that as well as religion. She told me i was still in her heart and she will never forget me and she loves me as a friend. We spoke online on the Tuesday and Wednesday. On the Tuesday even though we aren't together she called me babylove and gave me a good morning kiss. I sent her a message saying how love was special and lets not throw it away over religion. She just said i will accept as friend but not lovers. Then she said im going offline and be back in a few hours. But she never came back online. Her phone is cut off until she pays the rest of the bill so i can't contact her until she comes online or pays her bill. Did she go offline for a few days to think it over about our relationship? or doesn't she want to speak to me again? but she said to be friends. I'm confused should i give it a week or two and try to contact her again and see if she wants to give another try? and when i phone her what do i say to get her back? thanks

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