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writes:My boyfriend has a close girl friend..before i came in,they are best of friends. at first its ok,but suddenly I notice that their closeness came out of boundaries, they became so touchy with each other, to the extent that they both have this term of endearment, and its hurting me, so I confronted him and then he said that they're just friends and he promise to avoid the girl, but the promise is just for a while, still they are doing what they are use to. what will I do?? Its really hurting me,. do you think they both have feelings with each other?, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): tnx for the advice,i really apreciate it,
it really helps.,
actually before i came in,they're already close with each other,they regularly sending msgs with each other,and actually the girl is also a friend of mine "before",but now we never get along because it makes me feel upset whenever were all together,and i think the girl has no idea of what's going on now.
but i have another question,what are the ways that needs to be done,to investigate?,on how will i know if they have past,or mutual understanding,or they just choose to become friends at all..tnx..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): I wouldnt put up with this if i was you! You dont deserve to have this in your relationship. Tell him just how you feel and let him know that it cannot carry on like this. Find out just how close friends they really are. I personally think he is taking the P*ss!!
take care
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 I feel that there maybe some attraction between them. You should investigate more on this and see what kind of "PAST" they had together. If your boyfriend refuses to tell you then you must take it into your own matters. Second of all, they can just be friends but friends do have boundaries that they CAN NOT cross. You are either a boyfriend/girlfriend or a just a friend and it seems as if she is right on the line dividing those 2 differences. Explain yourself clearly ONE LAST TIME that he either respects your feelings on how him and his friend act with eachother or this relationship just wont work out because 3 is a crowd. Good luck!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Yes I do. You need to dig deeper. Are there obstacles keeping them apart (besides you?)....Did they have history together prior to your relationship? You don't really say what it is that they are 'still doing' or how much time they spend together regularly. Your boyfriend needs to chose which one of you he really wants to be with and you need to help him do this. Otherwise you are going to continue to feel like your sharing a big part of his intimate side with someone else.
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