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writes:I have two very close friends (we'll call them Jack and Jill) who have been dating for just over a year now. I've always known that they were one of those few couples in university that will probably go on to get married one day - they're just so perfect together!Yesterday morning I went to go talk to Jack, and he was looking a little tired, so I (cleverly) commented that he looked really screwed. So he just calmly tells me "yes, well I didn't sleep too well last night... and I have a lot of work to do today... oh yes, and Jill and I broke up last night." He said it as if it was just another trivial fact, but I was completely stunned! I was waiting for him to say "no, just kidding" but instead he showed me the chat he was busy having online with Jill, and Jill even said directly to me that they'd broken up.So I need to know a few things. How can I support them, esp Jack? It's much easier to talk to girls and let them cry on your shoulder, but I'm not entirely sure how to approach Jack. Also, the 3 of us and 2 other friends went bowling that afternoon, as Jack and Jill are supposedly now going to be "best friends." At the bowling though, Jill was always touching Jack on the arm or leg, and looked to him for support every time her bowling wasn't going quite right.Jill is the one that broke up with Jack, which confuses matters even more. My last question might sound a bit selfish, but anyway... I felt like crying afterwards, as to me they were what love is supposed to be, and now they've broken that symbolic love! I really feel depressed every time I think of them. I don't want to feel like I'm looking for attention when they're the ones who are clearly going through the trouble, but I feel I need support too. How can I get this support?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): I wish i had a friend like you. You are so thoughtful. Just be there for them both in separate way. I would ask Jack out for a drink one night and see how he is. If you do get to see Jill i would keep that a bit more casual, maybe ask her how its going but don't ask her out incase you tread on their toes. I think they have probably just sought some breathing space to see how the other feels. Give them a couple of months, who know they might be back together again. But keep your distance. You don't want to be made to look like you have made matters worse. Best of luck.xx
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reader, HONEST JULIE +, writes (13 November 2006):
 well my dear friend, if you want to help them as much as you say you do, then approch them both seperatly, and ask them if they still have feelings for each other,and if you want to help jack, arrange to go out one night and ask him if he still wants to be with jill, but REMEMBER DON'T LET YOUR FRIENSHIP SUFFER WITH EITHER OF THEM, if they are ment to be then will get back together when they both feel it is right and with jill let her come to you.
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