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writes:Lets call her Jo.SCENARIO:Jo and I have been best friends for a very long time. We are so close, we have the exact same sense of humor and we tell each other everything...until now. I've told her many, many secrets, which, in the dealing of this, I don't want her to spill.We love each other very much. But...I'm worried it's in different ways. I am completely straight. The idea of anything even remotely not-straight heading in my direction and i freak (this is personal, I'm not being hateful or anything). Once I got upset about something, and she gave me a hug. Fine, great...but as well pulled out she said 'Oh, that reminded me of feelings I had for you a little less than a year ago'Great.She assured me she was over it, and ever since I've put it to the back of my mind. She'd had boyfriends and obviously I had too. I didn't wholeheartedly believe she was over those feelings.Also, because I was constantly there, pretty much all the time we were at school, I seriously doubt those feelings every went away.So, I tried my best to focus on the friendship and hoped it would all be okay. Which, Until today, I thought it was.I should mention that she can be quite obsessive, she isn't a people person and when there are people that show her a small amount of kindness, she does tend to be very overly attached.She refuses to leave me alone sometimes. Sweet, but creepy. She wont let me do petty things, like eat toffee (I have braces) or go a certain way to see my (male) crush. So, here is why I am pretty much in a state of shock.We were in a room by ourselves. The lights were off but that was for a separate reason. So, it's all fine.Then she asked me to take of my top. Okay, weird, but I had a top underneath, and she needed the bottom one (strappy vest top) for a photo. Okay, little weird, but acceptable.then she told me to put her hoodie on. Okay, fine. Can-do. BUT instead of asking ME to do the hoodie up, she did it herself.Picture the scene. her face becomes really close to mine. i can feel her staring at me, her eyes are beginning to close. She does the hoodie up and leaves it open a bit, so the top of my tank top is exposed. I know, for a fact, She did it deliberately. She was going to kiss me.I got so scared, but I carried on like nothing happened. She started to feign (super-wow-fake-bad-acting) illness, looked into my eyes for 11 SECONDS straight, and collapsed. Obviously i reached out and caught her. It was so obvious that she did it to get me to hug her. I didn't know what to do.Later, we were on the floor, still alone, lights of looking at pictures. I was so freaked by this point. She laid right next to me, faces CM apart. I was...oh my god. not good.She told me to look at her. Obviously being so scared like that I really briefly looked over then back. I didn't want to give her the time to kiss me. Her eyes were closed. I really quickly got up and moved to turn the lights on. When I returned she started tickling me to the floor and laying on top of me. i was so petrified. i didn't let myself be alone with her again for the rest of that school day. I'm at home now, and I'm still in shock. I can't tell my parents, b/c I'm not even supposed to be hanging around her.PROBLEM:what the hell do I do? I love her, as a best friend, i do. I told a trusted teacher straight after school. She was very understanding, and when Jo came to find me, Miss X helped me make my excuses to go straight home. Obviously Miss X has told my head of year. I have a meeting with her soon.i was told that this counts as sexual deviation or something.I'm so scared. i feel so betrayed, so violated and also very vulnerable.Please, anything you can say. Thank you for your time.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): I think you should say her what you wrote here. I am straight, sorry. I prefer guys. Please don't do this again, and I am pretending excuses. If she accept, ok. Otherwise you'll need to detach. I would rather keep off as off as possible adults who aren't trained psychologists, they will just add confusion.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 You have turned to your teacher now who has got the head teacher involved, therefore I think you need to be honest with your parents and tell them what happened. Okay so she never kissed you and she probably felt she was not doing anything wrong as you never asked her to stop, however you feel very different about this. It has left you scared and vulnerable, and the school are now involved so I think you should talk to your parents about this, before they find out from the school and it will all be so much worse.
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