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writes:This isn't exactly a relationship question, it's more of a friendship question. Ok here's the deal. I have this great friend in college since freshman year. He's always been by my side, totally inseparable, a lot of people even called us twins( I know creepy) So fast forward to the summer of sophomore year i began this whirlwind romance! Ok not really but i did meet a freakin hot guy, fell in love and began seriously dating him. Everything in my life changed guys. I basically dumped everyone in my life for the next 5 or 6 months. Including my best friend :( I also got a lot closer with another girl friend I had and hated freshman year. But after I met this guy, everyone was basically out of the picture. I was falling in love. My weekends and many of my weeknights became devoted to this...guy. My friends couldn't get in touch with me when I was with him, but I made plans away from him as much as I could. I tried to make my friends feel like they were still special and important to me. And talked about the situation to my best friend who said he was OK...Now after a year and a half of dating we're practically an old married couple. I look around in times of sadness for my friends and realize...I no longer have friends. My best friend is gay. And was deeply depressed. He looked and acted dorky and was an outcast to most of our school. But i loved him anyway. We were each other's rock. He knew nobody in the gay community, never had a boyfriend, and was of course a virgin. Last semester he moved in with a room full of gay guys and everything changed. His personality, his mannerisms, everything. He's become arrogant,and at times rude. He takes jabs at me for not having friends when two years ago, he was practically a nobody. Now he leaves me out of plans(purposely i think)and we can never do anything together without one of his new friends coming along. Everyone in school says I've been replaced. (immature i know but it still hurts) So basically...I'm a lonely gal. Its hard to make friends without already having friends and i find myself eating, reading, watching TV alone 85% of the time. The girl I hung out with is in a relationship similar to how the beginning of mine went so that's not an option. What can I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Umm sounds like me but I have never had a friend umm I say he is a stub and he need to hang out with u more by him self but u no this and I am not helpful I no I stink sry but I have no idea what to do this is what has ben my life for the past like year
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