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writes:Me and my best friend have known each other since we were little. I used to have a huge crush on him, but I got over it And we've been best friends ever since. We know each others secrets and I can tell him anything. But Christmas Day we hung out after all the family stuff and he had just broken up with his girlfriend Chrismas eve. And when I asked if he needed to talk about it he said not really cause it was a long time in the coming so it really didn't hurt. So we were just talking about anything and everything and I said my back hurt so he rubbed my shoulders for me. Then he pulled me in to him and kissed me. All the feelings Id moved on from came rushing back and my head was spinning and I pulled away and didn't know what to do. I really just wanted to kiss him again But I knew we had just made a bad mistake. He told me he'd thought about us before and made me think he wanted more than friendship. But then he starts saying we should just forget it and stay friends and I am crushed. I tell him how I feel about it and thinks I need to just let it go. But it's just really hard cause it's like he just broke my heart and he's my best friend in the whole world.What am I supposed to do?? I just went and cried but I want him so bad it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): If you're really good friends then I'd try to forgive him, get over it and carry on as normal. Good friends are hard to find and when you get older, meet someone you fall in love with it'll seem like such a small thing that happened in the past.
It sounds like he was slightly more hurt from his break up than he let on and made a mistake.
If your feelings are too strong and constantly cause you upset every time you see him from now on, then try distancing yourself for a bit and if needs be cut contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): I think it was very misleading of him to kiss you then change his mind. On the other hand, I think that keeping you both as friends is better in the long run, when he matures then he will be more desirable and suited to be your partner. Chin up son!
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