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writes:Let me give a bit of history, my best friend (lets call her Tammy) well Tammy and i have been best friends for five or more years, she is practically my little sister. We have always had the plan to get pregnant at the same time. We where always going to have kids the same age. Well today we found out she is pregnant and I sadly am with out a boyfriend and i havent even had sex since the beginning of February. I am a tad, well more than a tad, jealous of Tammy because truthfully I have always wanted a baby more. I am very happy for her but I am very down trodden because of it. Thank you in advance for any advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTammy and I talked today and we have come to the conclusion that I am going to be the godmother. Yay! I thank you all for your advise. I know I have time for kids in the future but that is one thing I have always wanted was a baby. I start college in January so I know I wouldnt have time for a baby. I have my little Ladybug (Puppy) and that is all I need for now I guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): What's there to be jealous about? That she's young and now tied down?
The pair of you talking about having kids together was just kid and young talk. Loads of girls when they're young say the same thing with their best friends - I did! Although me and my bezzie didn't want children we agreed to move in together, get the same job together, etc. Well, things don't work out that way. It's just silly talk when you're young really.
If you were like in your 30's I can understand it. But you're young! There's nothing to be jealous about. Only thing to be annoyed about is that you won't be able to go out with your friend as often.
Just enjoy being young while you can. Your time will come.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 So Tammy is 18 or 20 and pregnant.
Give her one year, and she will be jealous of you !
No,Ok,that's a bit cynical. Let's suppose that Tammy planned her pregnancy ,has the money the time the skills to raise a child properly ( and a good partner to help her ) and let's be happy for her and send her our best wishes.
You don't have to be jealous, -you did not give up having babies, you just (hopefully ) are gonna have them when you'll be more mature .In the meantime,...enjoy your life.
There are so many other cool things that you can do right now ,other than pushing a pram. What about going to college ?? Or learning marketable skills which would give you access to a better career. Saving up for traveling and seeing a bit of world before settling down. Or just plain and simply going out with your friends and paint the town red - knowing you can go back home as late as you want, because you don't have a baby to feed every few hours.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 honestly its going to be ok. you may find mister right tomorow! lol but seriously just because you wont have kids at the same time does not mean your children wont be friends. children dont care about age as much as we do, so even if there is a few year difference it wont mean squat! i can understand the jealousy because i have wanted children for years and i hate seeing all my girlfriends having babies. i have even gotten to the point where i caused my body to show symptoms of pregnancy. it will happen for you but you cant rush it. it should be with the right guy at the right time in your relationhsip. until then enjoy your friends baby, buy stuff for it, babysit for her, enjoy the perks of motherhood without the bumps.
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