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writes: My best friend (female)is always questioning herself, always. She doesnt have a steady Boyfriend (she is middle twenties)but she does very occasionally have sex with an old friend (not old in years, just known him a long time), she says its not love just sex. She does not tell me anything at all about what they do together but she says things like 'I wonder if it was alright' and 'I'm not sure he was happy with me'. She wont go into any details at all but sex apart she questions her capabilities at work, with her home life, her appearance, work etc, it's like I said she never seems satisfied with her looks, her life, her work, her relationships with men, not that she has any. It makes me so sad to know that even tho she is a very attractive woman, she is plagued by this insecurity, how can I help her to be more positive about herself? Can anyone suggest any books or similar that would assist please.She lives at home with her Mom and Dad and she is the youngest with brothers married and they have children? Any advice that you feel I could pass on tho help her would be appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): You can be a good friend by being supportive and reassuring her but ultimately she has to change the way she sees herself, by herself.
There are TONS of self help books and CDs on this, you could try any number of them, CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) is supposed to be good about changing the way you think about things. I've also seen good results by hypnotherapists. The later would involve just a few sessions, the former would be 5 - 20 sessions.
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