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writes:hi id like some advice from some1 who doesnt know me.i have a daughter who is nearly two years old and have recently had to stop her father seeing her due to him always letting her down and some other stuff.the problem is that my best friend goes out with my daughters fathers best friend.she is also my daughters godmother. due to the fact i dont get out much ( because of lack of babysitters) i dont get to see my best friend very much, she hasnt been up 2 see my daughter since september.but because of who she goes out with she is with my ex nearly every week. i feel really hurt she makes no time for me yet is spending time with him( he treated me and my daughter really badly) so finally i said sumthing to her about it after it bugging me for months.i didnt mean for it to get into an arguement but it did and we have now fell out. she doesnt understand why im so hurt, and i feel totally betrayed as if it was the other way about i would never even speak to her bf never mind socialise with him every weekendive also told her confidential things about lawyers and things and she has went back to my ex and told him these things. we have been best friends for 5 years and i dotn know hwat to do?? any advice would be really helpfull
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Your best friend is in the middle and it is not an easy position to be in. You could be stressed and tired when those arguments erupted. When things have cooled down abit , try to make contact with her and have damage controls.
You should not share any sensitive informations with her because there is a probability she may tell her friend and then to your ex.That was your mistake.
Not to let the father see the daughter is not exactly a good option . Do you want your daughter to grow up without knowing her father?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 ok first of all i think that if you want this girl back in your life, you are gonna need to contact her and invite her up to talk about this properly - no arguments. you both probably got your wires crossed and left even more confused then before. wat you need to understand is that while you may not like it, she is going to see your ex regularly, and its not because she doesnt care for you or is trying to hurt you - its because she cares for his friend. talk to her and let her know that you told her those things in confidence and you were hurt that she told your ex about it - that was uncalled for. as for her spending more time with her - it has to work on both parties, you need to make an effort to see her and vice versa. you also have to know that she is hurting too - your not the only one that lost a friend. so you need to listen to her side also, and sort something out. if you need more help just email me, i hope this helps!!xxx
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