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writes:Hi thanks in advance for your help.Ive got myself in a bit of a sticky situation and im not sure how to get out of it with out a) making a fool of myself b) jeopardising a really good friendship. My apartment flooded (burst pipe) and im getting it redecorated this week my best friend has said i can move in with her for as long as it takes, which is great except im completely in love with her and she hasn't got a clue! I guess i should explain some more.Normally i can keep a lid on my feelings and behave quite normally around her,but i really dont think i can manage living with her and not saying something. The thing is im 32 not 17 but when im around her ude struggle to believe it, i get butterflies in my stomach, giggle for no apparent reason and i swear id listen to her read the dictionary just to hear her voice. She is the most genuine person ive ever met, strong willed, stubborn, kind, caring, unpredictable, completely dependable and beautiful. She has no idea how special she is, and not in the i know im amazing but i want people to tell me i am way, she is genuinely clueless to her appeal.Ive known her 5 years now, we met after shed moved to this country and didnt know anybody. We literally bumped into each other one night and have been friends ever since. The more i get to know her the more there is to like, even the annoying bits are cute! She knows im a lesbian and is fine with it, shes always been polite to girls ive been dating and most of my friends we hang out with are gay so i know shes comfortable with who i am. I just dont know if shed be ok with knowing im in love with her. im just worried if i stay with her whilst my apartment is being done im gonna say something or shes gonna see me staring(which is unavoidable around her, she really is stunning). She'll be on nights for the first couple of days (shes a nurse) but then shes got 3 days off and she was talking about spending time together as weve both been really busy lately(and ive kinda been avoiding being alone with her) pathetic i know.the thing is what do i do? shes going to know somethings up either way (reads me like a book). do i tell her? stay with her and hope for the best? join a convent? please help. many thanks Logan
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I don't know myself if this is a good advice but if I we're you, I would tell her everything and look at the bright side that maybe she likes me too. Hehe. If both of you are really good friends, I can assure you that she will not hate you if ever she didn't feel the same way. If she did like you back, then that's good for both of you. :)
I completely know how you feel. Saying you're inlove with a friend is never an easy task. You will always think of negative outcome that may destroy your friendship or fear of rejection if ever you did say something. But in my experience, a good friend will understand you no matter what. It may be awkward for her and even to you at first but it will turn a whole lot better as time passes by. But really, what if she likes you back? XD
This is just an opinion of an 18-year-old girl who happens to have the same situation(about the liking-a-friend part). I already confess a long time ago but she's very straight(xD)so not a happy ending for me. Hehe. But after that, we're closer than ever. She did confess that it was awkward at first but gradually became comfortable again with me. She even harasses and teases me in a pervertly way sometimes. It was done for fun of course. Hehe. If you think my advice is insane, it's fine. Hehe. Good luck with your friend! ^__^
Sorry if I'm no help or my advice is a little bit childish. Hehe.
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