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writes:My best friend for 13 years has started dating the guy I like. She only started to see him once she knew I liked him and when she's with him they both completely ignore me. She tells me everything that happens between them as if she's trying to rub it in my face. I don't know whether to say something to her or just leave it but its making me get really annoyed and uncomfortable. Help?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 March 2015):
 If she's doing it on purpose, then she's NOT your friend at all, let alone "best" friend.
But I don't think she does it on purpose. I think you both started liking him around the same time, or because you talked about him, her eyes were opened to how great of a guy he is. But it doesn't mean it was on purpose to hurt you or annoy you. I am sure she's telling you all about him because she's happy, and when girls are in love with a boy that's all they tend to talk about: the boy.
If it bothers you, and I understand if it does, then my best advice is to just leave them alone for a bit. It'll cool down. Don't hang out with them so much, try to hang out with either her or him on their own, without each other, so that you can actually talk together. It will not last forever, they will either break up, or they will cool down, so that things can go back to normal. Just hang in there!
It is best to NOT say something, because when a girl is in love she can't see how obsessed she becomes, and YOU will end up acting the exact same way too once you start dating someone. So let her be annoying for a while, it'll be best in the long run.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 March 2015):
 I know at your age people like to "call dips" on people they like, but IF you didn't DO anything to get to know him or date him, you can't REALLY say or do anything without looking .. well... silly.
However, IF she ONLY went after him because she KNEW you liked him? Then she is a petty and cruel person, and not someone to call FRIEND.
I think she IS getting a raise out of telling you ALL about the two of them. My guess is, she has been jealous of you (over something, be it looks, grades, home-life....) and NOW she feels like she WON over you.
I'd slowly cut her off as a "friend" and find someone else to hang out with. But when you DO, do not talk smack about this "ex-friend", just take the high road.
Don't hang out with them.
Last but not least, IF he knew beforehand that you liked him.. then I'm sorry to say he wasn't into you. It happens. Sometimes we get crushes on people who don't feel the same as us. Only way to get over it, is to accept it and move on.
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