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writes:My best friend of 4yrs abruptly emailed me a note saying it was time we go our separate ways. He did this after I sent him an email that was very innocent. He was also my personal trainer and I was his number 1 client, I also helped him with his business at times. He always valued my input, said I was a true friend, loyal to him. He said we will always be friends and that is a comforting thought. Then this out of the blue. I will tell you on his mothers side of the family he has 2 aunts who are scizo and his mom suffers from depression. He himself has told me sometimes he feels like he is in a mental prison. He is married and has had marriage problems including back in August...his wife is still not wearing her ring 4 months later.He sent me a second email a week ago telling me to stop talking to his clients and to stop training at the club he is at. He said my presence makes him uncomfortable and afraid. Understand this is a guy I would see once or twice every day not to mention text everyday etc. Everything started changing back in Sept when he brought on a business partner. For a period of time he thought I was jealous of his business partner..which was never the case. I partially feel some of this has to do with the business partner.I am confused because in his last email he said he wants nothing to do with me...yet....he keeps me on his facebook as a friend and he keeps me on his business website as his spotlight client. Also, he did this 2 yrs ago and it lasted for 3 months.How do you read him? Is this permanent or is he simply wanting space because he has issues in his life and in time will be back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!! I bought a book on Introverts and WOW!! I have learned SO MUCH about him and why took the action he did.
You are right its all about giving him SPACE. I will continue to educate myself on Introverts so that at the end I can be the best friend possible.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Yeah well I din't want to come out sounding too harsh towards you either some people find it difficult to say I just need time alone to think and recentre myself to friends so they do sometimes snap and come across mean to get the picture across. All you can do mate, is just sit back give him the space he needs when his ready to hang out/drink at a bar with ya and what not again. im sure he'll call you or txt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer..however...he has given me signs of his own interest in me.Also, I was born a hermaphrodite that is both genders which he knows and he always said he sees me from the female side. As far as texting me to much...the week he asked me to stop texting him so much, he texted me 21 times!! He texted me an average of 3 times every day. We are TRUE FRIENDS and he is the one that labeled us that not me. We were very close seeing each other every single day sometimes twice a day...we would each spend $100 on each other for both birthday and christmas.
I am starting to realize something he told me a few months ago and that is he is an Introvert. I think the truth is he became overwhelmed with me being an Extrovert. I think it is this more than anything.
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reader, faenon +, writes (28 December 2010):
My best friends I've known for 29yrs and 30yrs respectively their brother who I have grown up with since we were kids and we both know when each needs space four years isn't enough time to label someone as a best friend if anything a friend. Your email not the business partner has caused his change in attitude towards you he is thinking your gay and your overly friendly attitude is making him uncomfortable for your expecting more and it all started from a 'innocent' email you sent him.I'd think that'd tell you you've stepped over the line for he obviously doesnt see you as a best friend if it indeed was a innocent email and he then tells you its time to go seperate ways afterwards and to stop talking to his clients. If you value the 'friendship' back off being texted constantly gets annoying specially when the other party doesnt want the attention sounds like you yourself have issues for wanting to push when he doesnt want to. If his your only friend i'd be worried for it sounds like you are too clingy and needy and thats not normal. Even best friends need their space and when you've been told to leave it be they need space a good friend does that.
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