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writes:Hello all, I need your help and I have to admit being so much confused. Since a year or more, I am talking to a guy on net. He is decent and kind, educated and has a good job in another country, where he lives with his wife and 2 babies. We started talking by him telling me that he is bored with his wife because she is living with her parents due to some responsibilities and he cant bear this any more and he is planning to divorce her. I was so upset with this and I felt I have to help him somehow to save his marriage and I started being an angle and every day we talked for hours and I tried to indirectly tell him how important the marriage life is. I explained to him for hours that his wife needs to stay with her mom because she needs her at the moment and his wife cant say NO to her mom who was about to die. talking. We exchange photos, we updated our life and work stuff by sharing new points together. He is asking my opinion for every tinny thing. He is asking me even what he wants to eat and what is he wearing at work for the day. I am also attached to him. When he is at work, we both chat, then when he goes home, he logs into his email and we keep chating for hours. I asked him manytimes, and he said his wife is sleeping. He cares for me a lot by asking about me, my family and all those tinny details that he keeps worrying for , and so do I . I sometimes feel like he loves me. He remembers small things related to me and he is reminding me of those things I many times forget. He remembers what I told him last month and he is trying to do things that will make me happy. For example, he knows that I am sad today, and he sends me a funny video and so on .We are very polite . Very very polite, we do joke but never say a thing that can be considered flirt. I some times call him names, but he is always respecting. I feel like I love him , it is just sometimes. When I talk, he keeps waiting and keeps saying that he missed me. Many times, I feel like he cares for me as a good friend or as a sister, but sometimes I feel like he loves me other then that, why would he leave his wife sleeping and chat with me, while we were chatting almost for 2 hours during the day. But he never mentioned divorce again. He never called me although he has my phone number. But, he is always with me, and I am confused. He is working so hard all day long and at night, when he finished dinner , he is again with me, and laughing at my stupid stories. He is sharing with me his school stories, his crushes and love letters and all. He is honest and always try to be speaking the truth. I don’t know what is this. I am getting attached to him and I don’t want to be in a confusing situation. Please someone give me an idea about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): But, I dont know if it is the same for him or not, it is me who sometimes feels things are more attached to my heart. He maybe thinking as a friend, I can talk to him, but for me it gets somehow complicated. What is his mistake to break up ? It is possible that he maybe thinking about me just a friend ... any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): thank you for your response. I dont want to know what is his responsiblity and what he has to do, instead I want to know what should I do. He is bored or whatever, that is how he is and I dont know what to do. He is now together with his wife and kids, but he is still the same person, as I have met months ago. I dont know who is he to me, a friend or more than that? I sometimes think if he wanted to kill the boredom, he could talk to someone else who can flirt with him and talk things that his wife might not be saying to him, but with me he is just a friend, only we talk about daily stuff, not flirting noting at all. BestLove
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 A wife and two babies and he's bored. Why doesnt he take some responsibilty for his kids and let his wife do the job with the mother. I'm afraid you are an outlet for him. He needs to get off the net and get on with his life. I feel sorry for the poor wife and I think he has a cheek saying his life is boring. What kind of man is he anyway, thinking of divorcing his wife because she is taking care of her dying mom. I'm sorry but he is playing you and y ou are fullfilling his needs, he may not be all he seems. You only know what he is typing, that's all.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (28 December 2010):
Break contact with him. He's married, and you know it isn't right to pursue anything. In my opinion, things have already gone too far as it sounds like the two of you are in an emotional affair. This is an unhealthy situation for both you and him.
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