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writes:Can someone help me cope with my copycat better than you attitude best friend?I love her and yes at times to death, but why does she ALWAYS compete with me???I thought it was flattering in school, then I got married, she got married.I had a baby, she had a baby, we bought a house, and of course she then bought a house.I have a bad day, she has an even worst day, I have a great day, and she has the best day of her life. We talk about our spouses and hers of course has to be better.What gives? Why if she’s my friend, she’s acting like my rival?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 She admires you very much and wants to be like you. You should be flattered more than anything else. So what if she gets married and has a baby and buys a house, most people do that anyway. It could be worse, she could choose the same hairstyle, dye her hair the same colour, choose to buy the same clothes etc. I would take it as a compliment, she looks up to you and thinks you have good taste.
Why not ask her FIRST what kind of day she's had, that way she'll tell you and THEN you can tell her about your day. Get wise to her. When she exaggerates about her husband being better than yours just let it go in one ear and out the other, expect it and if she says something different it's a bonus.
Eve
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (3 February 2007):
 I think your friend just has a jealousy problem, perhaps. I had one when I was twelve...Me and my friend loved the powerpuff girls, and she liked Bubbles, and I liked Buttercup. I always made Buttercup the best character in our games. I grew out of it, but maybe your friend hasn't. I'm not really sure what you should say to her, but I think you shouldn't dwell too heavily on this. I know it's annoying; I went through this with my own friends. Still, there's nothing you can do to really counter it. Just be polite and alway tell the truth, never exagerate and raise your voice like 'MY day was worse than YOUR day, Jen!' Just explain your day and listen to her over-exagerated-monsters-stole-my-car-keys story and see who everyone believes. :) -Carrie
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reader, cd206 +, writes (2 February 2007):
 Why are you seeing her as your rival? Most people get married, have babies and buy houses at the same sorts of time. It's not necessarily copying. If it's irritating you when she constantly steers the conversation round to herself just walk away. She'll soon realise she can't take you for granted but remember, noone can be a rival unless someone else is willing to be in competition with them.
CD
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (2 February 2007):
Because shes jealous of you. In her mind, she has to do all she can to try and make herself feel and look better than you. Because deep down she feels like she just isnt as good as you are. She needs to find her own peice of identity and self isteem. Perhaps telling her shes good and unique and shouldnt try to act like anyone else.
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