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writes: Hi everyone, I have my own apartment and I am disabled and where I live there are people who are seniors and that are mentally ill. We are aloud to have pets which is nice. But one day I noticed some stray cats outside and I didn't know that they were until another tenant told me. She is my neighbor down the hall. She would feed them sometimes and throw treats out for them. One day I went outside to feed the two cats I know. They respond very well to me. This other lady comes up to me and she seemed friendly so we started talking about animals and how much we cared for them. She was living there before I was and she is older than me. Some of the people in the complex don't like her and call her the crazy cat lady even the Supers. I have always stuck by her as a friend but I really didn't know her well. She would always call me and leave messages about how everyone is harassing her and I would be there to listen. She doesn't just feedone or two cats, she feeds a lot of them. And then she complains that she doesn't have enough food so I got her a bag of cat food. I wanted to drop it off at her apartment but she wouldn't give me her apt number and told me to leave it in the hallway and that no one would steal it. She never said thank you for it and later when I brought it up she yells on the phone about how she was upset about one of the cats that was sick that's why she didn't thank me. But she had every opportunity to say it before that so she lied.I even suggested that we go out to lunch and I would pay because I knew she was struggling. When I called her to go out it was a Friday and she tells me that she is overwhelmed. So I said that we could do it another time. Then as it was getting closer to the holidays I was trying to talk to her because she seemed upset. She told me that one of the cats was sick and needed to be taken to the Vet. They had to put it to sleep and she told me this on my voice mail.I was crying in the car and my ex-husband was asking me what happened. He didn't like the fact that she was upsetting me. Things were getting worse with her moods, she was so stressed all the time and I felt a little unappreciated because she would hardly ever ask how I was doing. She tried to get me to help her feed all of them and I have High Blood Pressure and I have anxiety and depression too. But I am getting help with therapy. I also have insomnia and can't sleep at night so I sleep during the day and she knows that. She will call and tell me that I am only feeding those two cats the wrong way saying that they could starve and how much she worries about them and now we have had a few disagreements. She has been berating me and even went so far to say that I am not a person of my word and I never promised her that I would help her and even told her that an organization should be helping her and it is exhausting for me to be doing that. I also feed another cat there because her owner died and she is use to me feeding her. Whenever I see her I go out there even in the cold and give her food and water. She continued on my voice mail practically doubting that I was an animal lover almost saying that I was heartless. I was furious with her because she taunts people in the complex tells them they are going to hell that's why they hate her. I don't want to hate her but I told her how she was treating me. She makes a statement saying, "I don't know who you are and maybe its better that I don't hear from you because you never pick up your phone. I feel like I am never gonna talk to you." She never answers her phone and tells me that she is so tired after feeding all the cats. Everyone has been telling her this is too much for her but she won't listen. She even said that she was gonna move this month and she is still hear. I have saved her messages so my therapist can hear her and she thinks I shouldn't hang out with her and said she need professional help. She thinks everyone is against her and it even sounded like she was having a breakdown. Is it hopeless with this person should I continue to reach out to her? I feel so hurtby the things she says. She is not a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust an update, this person has called me again and I called
my phone company and there is no way to block her on my cell.
I might have to change my number. It's unfortunate this turned out the way it did but I have had enough.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (21 January 2014):
 Everyone is right. She is the crazy cat lady. Leave the cat lady to the cats. They don't have to communicate with her.
This may be why she cares so much for animals - because she has no ability to relate to humans on a normal level. And animals don't talk.
Let this woman go. your therapist is right; she's got a lot of problems. You don't need to deal with her. She sounds pretty wacko.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 January 2014):
If she's not a friend, why bother reaching out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2014): You really need to let her go, she ls at a point where she ls ln her own world and doesnt acknowledge others around her. She only cares for the cats and wants you to help her care for them as well. She doesnt seem to have a human or social connection with anyone or anything so lts best to let her go and do her own thing because she ls never concerned with anything about you, lt means she lsnt lnterested, shes only using you to help feed her cats. lts best to just let her go and move on; youve tried but she cant be helped.
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