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26-29,
*i4mep
writes:It all started at the beginning of last year, my sophomore year. I broke it off with a guy I had been dating for two years because I wanted to focus more on school. I started spending a lot of time after school helping my band director because I wanted to be drum major (basically the leader of the band). Anyway, since I was spending more time with him, we naturally grew closer. I started visiting him at lunch and I would even stay after school when I didn't have to so we could hang out. A few months later, I got a new boyfriend and his entire attitude towards me changed. He started being really cold to me and even getting me in trouble over little things. He didn't let my boyfriend pick me up from band practices and he'd lecture me if he picked me up from school (The latter not being his business) He even denied me the position of band captain (second in command) for no good reason!After a few months, my boyfriend and I broke up and he gradually started being nicer to me, but there are still days that he's cold to me without a reason. He blames a lot of stuff on me and hardly lets me be physical or even TALK about another guy in his presence. I admire my English teacher, who is very close in age to me, and I talk about him every so often. Whenever I do, he gets mad and says I can't date him because he's a teacher. Its not like I was oblivious to that, I don't even like him like that. Then there are days where he'll stare at me in class or in the hall, and be really nice when he does speak to me, but it can flip-flop in an instant. He's also really adamant about morals, but only with me. He freaks out if I say anything about dating a guy a few years older than me, but when my friend started dating her former teacher with an 8-year age difference, he didn't say anything about it and was happy for them. My friends all say he sounds like a jealous and possessive boyfriend but I don't know what to think.If he does have a crush on me, I wouldn't do anything about it. I know that would get him in trouble. But its still a burning question for me. If someone could help me out that would be fantastic. By the way, he's 30 and I'm 16. Please don't tell me its wrong; I've been told that enough at this point. And saying he doesn't simply based on his age is completely redundant, because its possible to want something highly illegal, as has been proven in many many many cases.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Still sounds like a crush to me or you wouldn't give it a second thought.
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reader, wi4mep +, writes (13 January 2013):
wi4mep is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose I'm just a nosy person. I'd like justification for his behavior, and the only advice anyone's given me who's actually witnessed it, including my parents, is that he could like me. I have no idea what else to think. No, I wouldn't do anything about it because I don't reciprocate the feelings. But I am curious to know if he does or not.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 January 2013):
If you don't have a crush on him then what's with this?
"If he does have a crush on me, I wouldn't do anything about it. I know that would get him in trouble. But its still a burning question for me."
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reader, wi4mep +, writes (11 January 2013):
wi4mep is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have a crush on him, though.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 January 2013):
What you are going through is as common as a cold. School girl crushes have and will continue to be around as long as there are teachers and students. All you can do is relax and let it run its course. It will fade eventually.
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