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female
age
30-35,
*skRosie
writes:Hey,I have a boyfriend, OB, but the thing is he is really clingy and he calls and texts all the time. It sounds really stupid but I tried avoiding him for one day and he was really upset about it and told me if I have a problem about us then I should tell him. I asked him if he would stop calling me coz I never picked up coz it was annoying me and my family were really annoying me. The thing was though he got really upset and started ignoring me. The thing is tho is that at school whenever I am with him he is really possessive and my friends are complaining that I don't spend anytime with them anymore, even though I try 2 I have choir to lunchtimes a week and it is really hard to balance everything, the thing is tho is that he is really keen on me, but because of all of this I'm not sure I like him as much as I used to and it is really hard to please everyone at once. What should I do about OB? should I dump him or see how things plan out?
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (4 January 2009):
you should take his own advice and tell him that he is being too clingy and you need some space to be with your friends and that he should take sometime to be with his. if he cant be away from you for more then a day he has issues.
you are only young, there is no point in getting yourself all mixed up in a serious relationship. if it gets too much, move on. i know that sounds harsh, but why give up your friends and life for a boy?!?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 No your not stupid, this is normal. You see guys will keep calling untill they are sure about you. I think he's unsure that you wanna keep him and probably thinks your going to get rid of him soon.
The thing is in this situation many girls and guys lack the strength to tell them to STOP because they think it will hurt. But it needs to be done in order to save the relationship otherwise the person doing the calling will fall into a obsession. (for some reason guys seem to do this more than girls about 5/1) the obsession can sometimes last for years.
I'd call him and if everythings still ok just tell him that "look! everything is ok but just stop calling all the time just take it easy!!" or to please stop all the obsessive communication. Be honest with him. Show a bit of agression but don't get angry. ;)
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