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writes:I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, we love eachother very much, and also find eachother very attractive. We used to have sex practically everyday, I'd dress up for him and everything, then we went to having sex 3-4 times a week. Now I feel as if we have sex once a week if we're lucky. I love my boyfriend and find him very attractive, we still mess about and tease eachother in a sexual way randomly during the day, but we never seem to make it to the bedroom. He's always telling me how hot he thinks I am, but he never seems to be in the mood very often, and now I've realised how little we do it, I don't feel in the mood much either! I feel like I'm the only one trying, in this part of our relationship and its bringing me down, please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): See my problems are reversed to 'So_Very_Confused' me and my girlfriend both still live with parents and so finding time to have sex at home (she doesn't like to have sex with others in the house) is a struggle, and it gets to the point where everything is planned, to a time or day when the house will be free. Now that takes all of the spontaneity out of sex (apart from the occasional car sex) and it has gotten to the point where planned sex is boring sex, thus reducing the libido so much that sex puns and jokes are no longer humorous... Oh the humanity
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 our sex life deteriorated after a year and moving in together... it's common... you know you can have it at any time so you don't make the time for it.
and are you so sure it's really that long?
the other night we were going at it and BF said "oh it's been so long" and I was like.. "hon it's SUNDAY we did this THURSDAY".... it just feels so much longer....
do you schedule date night? make time and plans?
we reserve one weekend morning for it... "Sunday mornings for for blow jobs" is what we say.... we don't always have it... but we know that we're going to give it a shot... and sometimes we do more than BJs....
I find a lot of times we need to do it at dinner time when I get home from work and eat a bit later....
it sounds like a timing issue more than anything with you guys.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Talk to him about it and see how he feels. It could be that he is stressed in other areas of his life at the moment or else he is just going through a stage where is libido is low. There could be plenty of reasons, but you will only find out if you are honest with him and tell him how you feel. From the way you describe it I severely think it is because he is not attracted to you any more so my guess it is some other reason.
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