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writes:Im kind of in a very tricky situation. So i had a summer romance with a girl i met in australia, im from england. She's 22 and I'm 21.We really liked each other and have had this kind of long distance thing going on for nearly 9 months now. Talking on the phone everyday, texting, email, writing to each other, sending gifts etc. She told me she loves me and I love her too. So we decided that in the summer when i've graduated from university she would come and stop with me in England for a few months. As a present I paid for her flights and she is coming mid May.The thing is I recently started sleeping with a girl i met at a party and we have kind of been seeing each other. I never meant for it to be any thing serious, just a sort of no strings, but we have BOTH really fallen for each other. She has no idea about my aussie love and my aussie love doesn't know about her either (she would be really heartbroken). The thing is now i'm starting to wonder whether our long distance relationship is worth holding on to. It was so hard leaving her to come back to England and it will be the same again when she goes back to Australia. I do love her, but I'm also starting to fall in love with Emma the girl i'm seeing from home. After a lot of thought I think it'll be best to end things with Louise (aussie).With her I have never felt this way about a girl before, she's constantly on my mind and i smile everyday thinking about her but its just so hard not being able to be with her when i want to. How can i tell her i want to end it? it will break her heart, and it is breaking mine but i think it's for the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): CALL Louise, explain what has transpired since you bought her the trip and tell her in the best possible language that you are, unfortunately for her, in love with Emma. Tell her that you never expected to fall in love with her but that in her absence one thing lead to another and that things have changed irrevocably for her.
I would also tell her that if she decided to take advantage of the ticket that I would help her find accommodation and company to make her trip worthwhile if you have a willing friend and someone with an extra room for some couch surfing.
Perhaps, like you, things have changed for her too.
I don't know how you were able to speak with Louise everyday and cheat on her. You are starting your adult life on the wrong foot. Anyway, what's done is done. Be upfront with Louise and stop misleading her.
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