A
male
age
41-50,
*uddyshep
writes:Dear Cupid,I got married last year in October unfortunately a week before our wedding day my wife's father died due to a long 3 month sickness. As all things were paid for and unable to delay the wedding we got married. One month later My wife applied for a job in another state and moved up there. We discussed this and i was made to understand it was for her future in the company she works for. Our relationship to this date was perfect we were a match made in heaven. However since she has been up there she tells me she had to move away to be alone because she felt suffocated by family friends and me. I know nobody was overbaring or any different in anyway this was just something she decided she needed to do and i feel it was because of her loss. The thing is she also tells me she is numb and can't feel anything, she still tells me she loves me but she cant be with me. I dont know how long she will feel this way. Im scared and dont know what to do, or how to help. my question is whats the best thing for me to do? How do I cope and has anyone been through this sort of thing before?
View related questions:
wedding Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): I am very sorry for loss.
Honoring Memories is an online memorial organization which sets the standard for providing high quality, unique memorials to individuals and families empowering them find the needed way to remember and honor their loved ones. We strive to connect with, grieve with, laugh with, and uplift the lives of our customers.
http://www.honoringmemories.org
Best wishes.
A
female
reader, im_a_dummy  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 i am so sorry this happend. Deffinantly be there for her, if she needed to move away and just have time to be alone, you should support that, and just be supportive, there isnt really anything you can do. As hard as it is for a child to deal with a parents death, its how life is, and it is Way harder for a parent to go to a child's funeral then a child to a parents. So in a way its a good thing she i outlived her dad. it is sad, and just be there for support, if she needs time away, respect that and give it to her. I might be really young, but i have dealth with my friend commiting suicide, and it wasnt a parent, but i was closer to this girl then anyone in the whole world, and i didnt leave my room for a few months, i wouldnt go to school i didnt want to do anything, and i know it was my fault she died, but it does hurt, and the pain never did go away. i took it out mainly on my boyfriend. Maybe your wife is doing the same, differant people cope differantly.
i am sorry about your loss, best of luck.
xoxo
keep us updated!
...............................
A
female
reader, Plexi  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 I can relate to what your wife is going through. From personal experience i found that grieving a parent or close relative takes time.................1-2 years to start feeling better, the pain will never completely go away. I suggest you try to be as supportive and understanding as possible and when she starts to feel better(perhaps i a year's time)you 2 can think about taking a second honeymoon and then finally start your life as a married couple. All the best to you both..............:)
...............................
|
