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writes:I'm Pakistan and two months back I came to US on fiance visa to marry my American Fiance whom I met through internet. We got married one month ago. I'm 33 and my wife is 34. She is beautiful, caring and loving. I have been confronting a very strange problem which is her green eyes. Whenever we have sex, and she looks into my eyes. Her eyes scare the hell out of me and Ignore her eyes to enjoy the sex. I talked mom over the phone and she said that green eyes are scary in a dark and it's pretty much normal thing. Should I keep on avoiding her green eyes during sex which also want contact from me due to her passionate love for me. Should I talk to my wife about it or not? Looking forward to hear from you soon.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 July 2013):
 Have her wear a "sleep mask" during sex... That way, you won't see her evil eyes.... I use a "Spongebob Squarepants" sleepmask, myself....
Good luck....
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 July 2013):
 You got some great advice. Here's my two cents...
Give it some time! You've only been married a month. I suspect that this will be one of the things that you grow to love about her, something that makes her unique and special just for you. I can think of some things about my husband that at first were a little unnerving, but after I got used to them, I grew to love them!
Give it some time. You'll be fine!
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (19 July 2013):
 Strangely enough, I can almost relate to this question. In my case I have a little PTSD episode whenever a guy is on top of me and peering into my eyes because of this abusive piece of sh*t I used to date who'd force himself on me while demanding I keep my eyes open...
The best advice I can give you is to change up the position so that she isn't always facing you. Reverse cowgirl and doggy style are easy alternatives. If you really like being on top, then I'd recommend you try leaning back (she's on her back with her legs up, you've kinda got your knees spread). Or you can try simply closing your eyes.
Best of luck!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 July 2013):
 Do not under any circumstances breathe a word about it to your wife. The eyes are the gateway to the soul, and if you say one word to her about it, you can kiss your sex life as it is goodbye, because it will her her like a personal rejection.
So don't talk about it!
Other than that, are you serious? Her eyes scare you to death when you have sex? What about the love *in* those eyes? If you look into her eyes, you see the woman you fell in love with. She is exotic to you as you are exotic to her.
Other than that, think of precious and rare jewels, like emeralds. Eyes are the most beautiful thing on a person, no matter what the porn industry tries to say. My husband has green eyes as well, and they're spectacular in my opinion.
Don't be afraid of what's different. Sorry, but that is a childish and immature response. If you love her, love all of her, even the different, the strange, the startling. Change your mindset, and soon you will be embarrassed that you ever felt that way about her eyes.
But seriously, if you say one word to her about it, it won't be long before she kicks you out of her life for another man who will get lost in her eyes without a single reservation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): First of all, never talk to your mother about problems or issues you have during sex with your wife, that is very VERY rude to your wife.
Simply ask your wife to close her eyes, or turn the light on.
Do not tell her that her eyes are scary.... what's she supposed to do about it? I think you should just work very hard to get over it, in time it should be ok. Think about it, there are people that have severe disabilities, like burns or disfigurements, and their partners still have sex with them... i think green eyes should be pretty easy to get over in time. Just give yourself some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): Wow this ones tough. I mean she really cant change the problom because thats just the way she is. Maybe you should tell her she might just laugh it off because honestly its funny. looking into someones eyes is very emotional and the fact that you want to look into her eyes is a sign that you truly love her but your just scared
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