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writes: I am really peed of with my mother. i am not proud of her tbh. she goes out on weekends wearing short skirts or leggings and wears a top that shows off her sagging boobs (she is 55 years old and divorced). she loves the attention of men but what she doesnt know is that they are laughing at her or using her as an easy way to have sex.it gets worse. i have found out that she has been 'seeing' one of my ex boyfriends, who is 25 (thats right, a 30 year age gap). i didnt quite know what 'seeing' meant. did it mean that they would go for meals and go on walks hand in hand or just have sex. of course it was sex. a lot of sex, according to her neighbors, whom i dont envy. i am really ashamed of my mother. i think its pathetic. and as for my ex, we split with some bitter feelings about 18 months ago but this is ridiculous.how do i express my feelings towards my mother without making her hate me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 seems to me like a more than fair compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni told my mother how upset i was. she said that she would agree to stop having sex with my ex but she said she will not stop going out and having sex if she can
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reader, matureflowerx  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Oh god I feel so sorry for you :( some women do not have any class or dignity and its such a shame that you are related. She should have been more sensitive about your feelings and seeing your ex is just a horrible thing for a mother to do. Have you discussed this with her? Does she know how much this bothers you?Maybe you could suggest a day out and help her pick more suitable clothes or even just let her know (in as nice a way as possible) that everyone is mocking her. There is nothing wrong with an older woman showing her sexuality or even being with a younger man it seems to be the done thing these days but there is a difference between being sexual and being a slut. I think you should explain this to your mother. I hope you can sort something out but someone especially at that stage in life should definetly have stayed away from her young daughters ex???Good luck I hope you can help her get her act together x
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 I agree with SoVeryConfused, however, she shouldn't be taking on your EX's that's just in the rule book. I'd never do that to a friend. Also these guys know it'll be smooth sailing having sex with someone who probably can't get pregnant, only wants sex, no strings attached, can walk away with no regrets because there is no LTR happening.So these ex's are your leftovers. Let them be Ex's.You are young and probably looking for more than just sex.You'll find the right guy that suits both of your futures.Don't get to down on your mom, she's meeting her needs, that's cool. But you should be able to move forward and find the Right guy, not just any guy. In the meanwhile let mom live her life while you pursue yours. I don't think you have to express your feelings because those can change like the tides.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 April 2011):
why does your mom being a sexual being bother you so much? I feel your embarrassement but your mom is just being a woman. Women in their 50s have sex drives to match men in their 20s. Nature has a sense of humor....
I'm 51, I dress cute.. my boyfriend prefers me in short skirts but I like them just above my knees... or in tight jeans... my boobs sag as does my belly from birthing and nourishing my children but it's what WOMEN do. I have a 37 year old boyfriend who thinks I'm great and who has sex with me every chance he get...sometimes 3 or 4 times in a day.... (we are long distance so we make up for lack of daily contact on the weekends)....
So what's pathetic? your single mom dating younger men for sex or the fact that your ex finds your mom attractive enough to have sex with her...
seriously I hear your pain and embarrassment... but I'm not sure WHY this bothers you so much...
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