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writes: My 5 year old girl has had a real sassy attitude towards me lately. Copying the way I talk in a rude way, saying "FINE" in a snotty way when I ask her to do something..etc. I've tried shouting, naughty chair, taking away privileges, threatening to wash her mouth out with soup etc, and each time she promises to be good.. until the next round of attitude starts again... How do I avoid letting her rile me up so badly? At other times she can be an angel.. She gets plenty of attention, quiet time after lunch, play dates, positive reinforcement, etc. This is turning into an unpleasant power struggle. If this happens at 5 years old, what can I expect at puberty? Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I've never had any children, but I teach. I've learned that you have to say what you mean, and carry through with promises (I don't like to say "threats")... if you say that there will be consequences, then enforce that. Don't tolerate anything.
You said that she has been this way lately... what could the catalyst have been?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): It sounds like time to give her one warning, one chance to stop before you give her a good old fashion smack on the backside.
Make sure the skin is bare (clothes thend to dampen the impace) and don't do it hard enough to do any real damage... just hard enough for it to hurt like the fires of hell for a bit.
This is not to be used willy nilly. Such physical force should only used when a child is unresponsive to anything else.
Whatever you do, do not give in. No matter what she does. If you tell her she can't eat that chocolate, or to stop being a little shit, stick by your threat. A child learns it can do things if it knows you won't follow through.
Flynn 24
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