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writes: I feel disgusted after finding out that my husband has left me for a 64-year-old woman. Apparently someone has told me that everytime he says he's working late, he actually is sneaking off for sex sessions with this woman. I am 25 and my husband is 28. I feel so depressed, disgusted, jaded, everything under the sun that is bad. What should I do? I feel so depressed and disgusted as I write this down now. He's even talking of divorcing me and marrying her instead - and claims their marriage will last longer than ours! We've been married for A YEAR now. What do I do?
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reader, jazki +, writes (17 August 2005):
Hi First of all your husband is super selfish of course . I have a cousin that is 18 years older than the married loooser she has. He has a son with wife but he did'nt care . Because my cousin drags herlife for him.See the problem with situations like this is There not getting any younger so they play charming roles to younger guys so the first young guy that gives them attention they will grab without letting go.So back to my cousin she bought this guy a truck babies him does what ever he ask for sexually. Its all about what he wants. So my dear you probally did'nt do all the extra's for him and wear your self out. Do what this looser my cousin is with wife has done . She knows now she did not do a thing wrong He did. She's not depressed anymore has made allot of new friends and smiles allot now she has a better life without him it does take time but are going tobe fine. OH another thing he's visiting his son allot latley when before it took him months to see him ( things that make you say HHHMMMM ). Not all older women are like these justgetting that out there, I know there is real ladies out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2005): I have a young son by this man. What should I do about the situation now?
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (7 July 2005):
Leave him, find a new man that will love you and love the correct age, there is something more that just sex between you dismal husband.He surely needs helps from a doctor and you need a new man, You didn't metioned if you have any childrens, but if you don't , leave him today... You don't deserve such pathetic husband. You are a lady and you need a gentleman. this atrocious husband defentely is not for you.God bless you, I wish you all the very best.Matt,20.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2005): We were engaged for three years before we got married, and I still can't understand why he left me for a pensioner.I feel depressed about the whole thing, and have started over-eating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2005): You deserve to have a man who loves yous with all his heart and soul. And he was horribly disrespectful to you, to his marriage to seek and affair. An affair is devastating to almost everyone involved. It's one of the most painful experiences that the jilted spouse will ever be forced to endure. Marriages have been rebuilt after an affair and you have to ask yourself..is it worth hanging in there, can we still work this out or should we just call it a day? If you want rebuild this relationship, he needs to dump the other woman, first. You and he need to sit down and talk. Let him know your feelings. Let him know the rules..how you will never tolerate sharing him with another woman. His committment and sense of obligation had been promised to you with your marriage vows. But please, don't beg. Say what you have to say, straight and to the point. The walk away with your head held high and your pride and dignity intact. Deep down he will respect you and if his love for you is solid and true, then he will realize how special you are to him. You completely underestimate your role in this relationship, but worse, so does he. When you shock him with behavior that he doesn't expect, he'll come to the conclusion that he can't live without you. If you whine, get weak and dependent, all that will do is have him pity you. You want his love and not his pity. Remember, you are wonderful just the way you are and he needs to realize that. He is the one that is cheating you out of his undivided attention. He is the one that has to take responsibility for the damage he has created in his marriage.
Couples have problems..that is a given. But that is no reason for a man to run out and have an affair. He needs to be a "real" man and learn to be honest and communicate with you in a loving, understanding way.
If the marriage is done...then get out of it and move forward. His behaviours are creating so much pain and self-loathing within you and no one has the right to emotionally abuse you like that. He has done a terrible thing to you and it will take you time and space to get through this. Seek support from trusting family and friends. Their love and encouragement will help you through this loss. Work through this and keep being proud of yourself.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
Give him his divorce and thank your lucky stars you had the chance to get out of this marriage!!!Dont feel bad about this, he must be of very unsound mind to have carried on in this manner.This man sounds incapable of commitment making it unlikely that any marriage he has will last for very long.....especially one with a 64 year old woman!!!
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