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writes:im asking all you pple to plse not judge im not here for that.ok i have 2 bf one is in the uk and one is in sa.i travel between these 2 places alot.they both know about each other and they r cool with it.they have both told me they love me.now i never really had feelings toward them but i have now started. i love both of them very much.it has come to a point were i start to feel guilty when im with one guy about the other guy.and i dont know what to do im guessing i should split from one of them before the situation gets even worse. but which one? or maybe leave both?it has gone way beyond the "just sex part" we talk alot about stuff they r both great awesome friends.what do u think i should do cause i dont want to leave either of them Reply to this Question
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reader, Pretty and proud  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 I think you should be with them both as friends or break up with them both completely- Whichever is easier on your heart.
Then you can either reflect on your 2 relationships and make a decision as to which one you love, or you can start a fresh with someone else. To save complication just be with one man or you will end up hurt because you feel guilty all the time and bad for the other man.
Hope this helps and your heart heals soon!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (23 January 2011):
 hi
ok this isn't a conventional relationship, BUT if they are both cool with it, what's the problem really? are they seeing other girls too?
if you feel guilty that you are seeing them both, then i guess you will have to stop seeing one of them, and as you are the one who knows them both better, you will have to decide which one is best FOR YOU, just bear in mind that the BEST man may not be the one who is more handsome or has more money, that should not be a consideration as there are lots more important things than those.
maybe you should draw up a list of what qualities you are looking for in a man and then see which one of your men 'ticks most of your boxes'
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): You must either choose, leave one of them or both as you say. it must be difficult for you to travel so much,. I think you should start a fresh and look for somebody else whilst keeping these two as friends of yours. It will be much easier for you to do this before the feelings get ven stronger and you perhaps fall in love with both of them, because love is a very difficult thing to get out of, I can tell you that for nothing!
I hope you sort it out and make the best decision.
Amy
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