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writes: I have 3 kids. They 28, 26 and 15. The older two have their own lives, jobs and homes. My concrn is with my 15 year old who still lives at home and in high school. He's a great kid, honor roll student, polite, very respectful to others. Generally a well-balanced good guy. We live in a large city-in a medium to low crime area. He works evenings at a drive-thru resturaunt. He gets off work at midnight. He has asked me if he can walk home, as some of his friends/co-workers do that. It's a 3 mile walk, home to our area, where we live. I don't mind if he walks home with a couple friends who work with him. But they don't always work at the same times. So whenever I insist on going pick him up after work, at midnight, it's because I don't want him walking home alone.As a Mother, he says I am over-reacting, way too over-protective..that nothing will happen to him if he walks home alone. I still have no intent of letting him walk home alone after midnight, but I need to hear from other parents of teens. What do you think and what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the great answers. Having some teens themselves, answer this posting, was great! I admit, I do even have some reservations about him walking home with friends/co-workers at that time of night, as well. Think I'll stick to my guns, and pick him up anyways even if he has friends with him. Heck, I'll give them all a ride home!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): I have a 15yr old son myself. I won't let him walk home alone or even with friends after ten o'clock. I will go and pick him up and his friends if I have too! Teenagers can't see the dangers that we know exist in the world and even though they want their independence at 15 they are still too young. No you are not being an over protective mother,you are being a caring parent.
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reader, Just a Girl...  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 the thing is as a teeneger myself i see his point but hes only 15, for me and my mum its about compromise, letting him walk home alones reli not a good idea cos there are too many dangers out there but if he and his mates where to walk home say every other time maybe hed feel less smothered?? xxx
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reader, Heather's agony ant =] +, writes (27 July 2007):
well i no were your coming from but you do have to give him some space because you dont want his image of you as way over protective just let him walk home a few times see how it goes ? but before letting him make sure his friends walk him all the way home if you want and were they leave him to walk on his own go and pick him up so he isnt embarraced?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): ok im a teen too i live in a place in california where an 18 year old got killed as he was walking around at 12 in the morning.. over protective..no..over reacting heckz no!! tell him that you love him and care and if he doesnt respond tell him this story.
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reader, Ask me anything  +, writes (27 July 2007):
Im still only in my teens and i dont think your over reacting! Walkin home alone after midnight is a crazy thing to do at any age!You are not being over-protective, your just being protective!
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reader, Ask me anything +, writes (27 July 2007):
Im still only in my teens and i dont think your over reacting! Walkin home alone after midnight is a crazy thing to do at any age!You are not being over-protective, your just being protective!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Ok my son is ten and i know you said parents of teenagers, but with the world as it is today i would not let my son do that either if he's on his own.
Strange though we probably would have acted the same way when we were his age.
Take care.xx.
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