A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My 12 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. I already talked to her about it. But I'm worried. She's been going on some really nasty sites. Sites that use the F word, P word, and c word. She's been going on quite alot of them to. She does a pretty good job of hiding it too. I'm worried she might be a porn addict. At such a young age. She's been doing it since last year! I'm worried, any advice?
View related questions:
porn, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): i'm a 29 year old single mum in the uk and i say chill out and leave her alone! my daughter kelly's also 12 and she's into porn big style. i don't have a problem with it cos i spend pretty much all day watching porn and masturbating, in fact i'm addicted to both. i bought kelly a rabbit for her 12th birthday and she luvs it. she goes through like 4 or 5 packs of batteries a week, she can't help herself but i no some of her mates the same age have all got rabbits aswell. i got her some of them vibrating panties she wears all the time at school so she can get her orgasms between classes but what the hell? you should see her when she gets in from school, shes straight up to her room, door shut and rabbit on within a few seconds! shes in there all nite with her porn. in the mornings she's using it for about an hour before she cums downstairs, poor little things gagging for it! so leave her alone and buy her sum toys
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): "...I also know she masturbates to. And she's just 12!..."That sound pretty frickin' normal to me."...Sites that use the F word, P word, and c word..."What else do you expect at a porn site? And what is the P word? Penis? Are you for real?"...One time I saw her sitting in a chair, panties off, (touching her privates) looking at porn!"her "privates"? are you serious?You have a real problem! You have a very unhealthy, distorted opinion of sex. This may be explained by not masterbating while looking at porn when you were 12, but that's your own fault. You don't have to punish her because she's smarter that you at that age.And you spy on her while she masterbates!?! Give her some space, man, Jeez! "...But shes old enough to know it's wrong. She's a straight A student..."How is it wrong? What's your problem? She gets straight A's, then leave her the f**k alone!Ok, now..."...I have a problem. I walked in on my 12 yearld daughter and her friend clothes off shoving brushes up each others privates wat do i do?"Go have a cup of coffee, I'll take care of this!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): I have a problem. I walked in on my 12 yearld daughter and her friend clothes off shoving brushes up each others privates wat do i do?
...............................
A
male
reader, Dr. John +, writes (2 September 2007):
 This needs to be stopped now!
Most of the stuff on the internet is garbage even for adults to watch. There are probably many who will disagree with me on this but here are some eye opening statistics you may want to consider: The National Study Commission on Pornography (1970 and 1986) said, “One in five boys and one in ten girls have their first exposure to hardcore, illegal pornography (obscenity) by age 12.”
Now realize this was a study concluded 21 years ago!
How bad is it now?!
I have supplied the link to the site where I got that information. I highly and urgently recommend you go there and check out the site for you and your daughter's sake. Doc.
http://www.filterguide.com/harmful.htm
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): i would just block all the dirty porn sites althuogh she might be learning
...............................
A
male
reader, Chippy334 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I guess at 12 I viewed porn and I knew that terminology before I was 12 so get with the times and let her be her.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): I am the anonymous who wrote below that I think you need counseling and I just don't know how no one else sees it. You are acting so bizarrely. What do you do just follow your daughter around? I mean what an invasion of privacy! I bet when you were 12 you used to masturbate too. You need help. You are not acting normally. You are not being rational. And I feel so sorry for your daughter to have to live with you. My parents would have never dreamed of treating me the way you are treating your daughter. You are acting like she is some kind of weirdo and you know very well that at her age, she can't help having a sex drive. Walking in on her masturbating? You like playing inspector gadget on your daughters masturbating habits. You are the one that needs help. What a nightmare.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Hi, I'm the guy who wrote this. Thanx for all the answers. I tried putting blocks on it, but I can't seem to figure out how. she already knows the birds anf bees. (My wife told her) I also know she masturbates to. And she's just 12! I keep a very close eye on her, so she doesn't really have sex. But I found websites like www.sexyf***games.com Or www.mysexgames.com. She likes it! I think se's more then just courious. I didn't tell my wife yet. One time I saw her sitting in a chair, panties off, (touching her privates) looking at porn! I don't know weather she knows I know or not. But shes old enough to know it's wrong. She's a straight A student. Any more advice please?
...............................
A
female
reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (20 August 2007):
 install something on the computer that you can view anything she goes to and talk to her again and let her know its wrong to look at thoses sites.
im not telling you to tell her sex is bad or to give her a sex talk or anything just explain that isnt what she should be looking at and you dont want her looking at it in your house or any where.
be calm thow and also put a parental block against adult sites and make sure shes safe
take care may god be with you and your family
...............................
A
female
reader, love-him  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 there are al sorts of ways, to stop this. Dont let her onto the computer and block the websites, track what she is doing ( which is what my mum did, so that she can see everything i did ). she is just learning, whats what. most sites use the f c and p words.. she already knows what she is doing is upsetting you, which is why she is hiding it. no matter how well you stop it, she will find a way, you just have to let her know its not something very nice and there are other ways to learn.. Hope i helped, mail me if you would like to talk x
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I think the only thing you can do is restrict her internet access or move the computer to a place in the house where you can observe what she is looking at. These sites are nasty and definately not the place for young, curious girls. They don't give and accurate view of sex or sexuality so she needs to realise this and get away from them, they're not going to do her any good in the long term.
...............................
A
female
reader, Karen - Louise  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 Hi there,
calmly and quiety discuss with her the reasons porn is unacceptable. Your daughter is entering puberty, and while it may seem a bit extreeme to look at porn for answers, most kids these days are confused about sex. perhaps you could talk to her about what she's seeing and what she thinks it means. If you feel uncomfortable having the "birds and the bees" convosation with her, there are plenty of books meant for children just entering puberty that offer friendly adivce.
Good luck,
Karen - Louise
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): you can block the porn sites from her and you can also put on a password if you want to
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Well what is her life like besides the porn viewing. Does she have friends? Does she like to go out? Does she have interests? Does she get good grades?
And how frequently does she look at porn? Everyday? And what kind of porn (all porn has the F word and C word) but is it like S&M type of stuff? Child porno?
Cause certainly it is NOT unusual for kids that age to look at stuff like that (unless it is CRAZY porn that involves injury to other humans). And let's face it, all porn is dirty and uses explicit language. Her curiosity is not unusual. But I mean if she does nothing but look at porn and has no life then I can see why you would be concerned that she might be addicted. That would certainly require some sort of intervention, in which case you could contact a professional to help you in this kind of issue. But I can't tell if you are genuinely worried or irrationally angry. Especially when you say "she does a pretty good job of hiding it." What is she supposed to do, announce it to the world? Jeez weren't you ever 12 years old? Are you really trying to help her or just simply embarrass her?? Cause it is NOT UNUSUAL to be curious at that age and it is especially not unusual to be secretive about it, and I find it hard to fathom that you don't understand that.
I think you all need some family counceling. Cause I don't think you are being rational. And I don't know all the facts but she may have a problem. So contact a professional.
...............................
A
female
reader, aye +, writes (20 August 2007):
 u can not let her on the computer also she will get tierd of it eventually all u can really do is talk to her and not let her go on the computer yes shes young but my cousin started at 11 and her mom let her she ended up getting tierd of it but wouldnt u rather have her watching it then doing it
...............................
A
male
reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (20 August 2007):
You probably cannot keep her from the internet for school purposes. Use a parental control software or allow her to use it only when supervised. And by allowing her, I mean make sure she cannot even use the computer without a password.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): dont let her on the computer. or could you put a parental block on the sites she visits? its obviously curiosity as she is entering puberty and hormones are flying everywhere, but as you know, those sites are not the place to learn about these things!
perhaps you could get her a book about sex and sexuality from the library? at least then she will be learning about it in a proper and informative way, otherwise she will think that porn is real and that is the way sex really is and that is all it represents.
...............................
|
