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writes:what do you do if your gf says that she has not felt plesure when your having sex everytime but the one time you did it in my truck i really could use some help because i dont want are relationship to end because i am not able to plesure her beside fingering or oral could you help me ?
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reader, cherri sparkle  +, writes (20 February 2007):
ask her what she likes start with the foreplay to learn where she is most sensative everybody has different arousal points and like to be stimulated in different ways try different love-making positions and tecniques to find what works for both of you sex is alot more in the mind than people think so spend time talking beforehand about the things you would like the other person to do to you and different situations you would like to be in
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reader, Psyche +, writes (20 February 2007):
The majority of women on the planet do not have an orgasam from sex. It is a sad fact and one many men refuse to realize. Don't freak out. If she enjoys you, then you are ok. Women are not like men, we don't need to "get off" to feel satisfied. All we need is the proper treatment. Many women don't even have orgasms until they reach thier 30's and nothing you do or don't do will change that fact. What you can do is not worry about it. Treat your lady as a goddess with respect, romance and loyalty. Don't seek the orgasm, seek intimacy. And be grateful that your girlfriend is honest with you - most women aren't, which is lame because it makes men think women have more orgasms then we do. you're fine
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (20 February 2007):
 To be honest, it's common for girls to feel this way, and only recieve pleasure from fingering an oral. Some girls can only feel pleasure at all when they've reached FULL maturity, body wise, but judging by your age, and guessing her age is close to yours, I'd say this isn't the case.
The key to finding the answers here is to ask her about what she likes about oral and fingering, and see if you can incorporate this into your love-making. Try new positions, etc. Also, clitoral stimulation is the center of a woman's pleasure, usually, so perhaps while she's on top of you, your could use your thumb to gently (or firmly, depending on her likes and dislikes) rub it in an up-and-down or circular motion. I find this helps.
If this doesn't work, I wouldn't sweat it. :) Perhaps fingering is just the only way she can 'get off'. I honestly feel more stimulation from just ONE finger than from my boyfriends penis sometimes, so I ask him if I can borrow a finger for a few minutes and he takes care of me after I've taken care of him.
I don't think she'll leave you just because of this, if you can pleasure her in other ways. But if she does feel too strongly about this, perhaps you might consider what you look for in a girl...Do you really want a selfish girl? Or do you want a girl who can make-do, be kind, and love you for you?
Besides, what are the chances she can recieve pleasure vaginally by penile intercourse with another guy? Slim to none if she feels little or no stimulation from you.
Buck up, buckaroo, and talk to her about it! Good luck!
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