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writes:I've given anal sex a try several times before and was put off by the pain (my partner is fairly well endowed). The last time I tried it I was a bit drunk and kind of changed my mind halfway through but didn't really articulate that thought firmly enough for everything to stop. So...I was a bit tense and it was painful, but eventually it didn't feel bad. Then he pulled out and there was...a bit of mess. I had absolutely no idea and in all the times I've tried before and experimented on my own this has NEVER happened.Anyway...I was (and am) completely mortified. I actually cried from the shock of it...I just was not expecting THAT to happen. Honestly, I feel like burying myself in a hole and not coming out for a few decades. So please...I need advice and comfort.Has this happened to anyone? How did you recover/repress this memory? MUST you use enemas or douche before anal sex? Generally I take care of cleanliness of that area in the shower pretty thoroughly and have never had even the slightest problem before. Is this in any way related to my drunken state at the time? And can guys actually get over something like this?Incidentally...I do not typically have drunken sex and the person in question was my long term monogamous partner. Don't judge too harshly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Yeah, it's embarassing, but it's a risk associated with that activity. If your man took it badly, he can stop sticking it in there.An enema or douche might help, but you might lose the moment. Either way, it's not exactly a clean place
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reader, shortstuff4789 +, writes (12 February 2009):
 i kind of understand... if you want to message me i can talk to you more about it . my bf and i have been trying it too but cant get very far in it cause there was to much pain casue we didnt use enough lube i guess. i really dont think you need to use enemas or douches before but maybe im just naive...sorry i couldnt help more but contact me if you want to
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