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writes:My boyfriend and i recently made our relationship official, but the other day he found text messages on my phone to another guy, though i didnt cheat or meet up with the other guy my boyfriend doesn't think he can trust me. He said he can't be with me now, but it was a stupid mistake to text someone else and i want to know how i can win him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Maybe I'm onto something here, but your boyfriend's reaction was a bit over-the-top.The text could have been entirely innocent and he over-reacted.Either way, try and restore his trust, slowly but surely. Relationships take a long time to forge, if it was good beforehand try and make it better...That's my advice.AP
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): First consider your bf might've done the right thing. If he's gonna torture himself about who your talking to all the time, he's probably not gonna be a very good boyfriend. Alot of people wouldn't have a problem with what you did, but some people are just insecure & can't handle it. He already knew he couldn't handle it, so he saved himself before it got worse.
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reader, paradise  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 How long have you been with you bf, and how did you make your relationship "official"? If he thinks he wants out, then move on with your life. Let him have what he thinks he wants. Don't call him, don't write him, don't chase him - back off completely and let him have his way. There's nothing you can do to make a guy want you if he doesn't. Perhaps there's another reason why he wants out, maybe scared to commit, because you don't have a ring on your finger and I don't think you did anything wrong by texing another guy. Now if you were married that's a different story, then you'd be wrong.
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