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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): i think you should speak to your mother and also respect her wishes but also be happy at the same time hun also talk to you man and see how things go may be the three of you should talk but your mom is just looking out for you so dont worry
good luck doll
sincerly luva
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reader, bobmcbobbins  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 ya i believe in what kenny said you are old enough to make your own decisions in life and perhaps you should just put your mum straight
at the end of the day your mum has the right to be worried especially if your boyfreind is extremely older or younger. however if this is not the issue then i cant see why she wont let you.
My mum wouldnt let me sleep over at my girlfreinds and i am 16 and she is 15. I told my mum that we wasnt goin 2 have sex and she let me stay. so put your mum straight and let her mind rest.
GOOD LUCK
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reader, kenny +, writes (29 July 2007):
 I do believe that your mother has got your best interests at heart, she loves you and wants the best for you, the same any parents do for their children.
But at the end of the day you are 18-21, not 15 or 16, and you are quite within your rights to go to your boyfriends house and do what you want.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Believe and trust that your mother loves you and wishes the best for you. Maybe, being she is older and wiser, does not trust the young man and she gets a gut feeling that it's not a good idea. She's trusting in her gut which is an amazing "muscle" that she excercies over years of listening to it and it is telling her something.
Has she taught you to not have sex until you are married? Have you asked her why? I say work on your relationship with your MOther because if you go over to your boyfriends house and you do have sex and you get pregnant, who do you think you will have to rely on when they young man buggers off?
Who do you think loves you more and wants you to be happy?
She may not seem to be understanding but she is. She just may not be communicating it clearly to you. It's not that she doesn't trust you, she doesn't trust him.
Talk to your Mother, maybe have him over to your house instead with Mom the chaperone present.
Compromise on this one and trust in your Mother.
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reader, angel-kate +, writes (29 July 2007):
 i would sit down with your mum and ask her why she thinks this, she may have a very good reason. you didnt really say if you were planning on having sex or not. if you are then explain to your mum you would do it saftly with a condom or on the pill. it will put her mind at rest.maybe your mum should meet your boyfriend - if they havnt already - once she knows him she may trust you to go round his.
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reader, LISAXXXG +, writes (29 July 2007):
 your mum is just being worried for you maybe have him round to you house so your mum and boyfriend can get to know each other better and do the same at his house once the parents see how sensible your being they might start to let their guard down
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