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writes: My mum is really old fashioned and doesn't want me to have a boyfriend or even have anything to do with boys. But my two best friends at school are boys. I don't fancy them or have any physical attraction to them. They are just friends, although we do hug but it's only in the friendly way. Mum saw me hugging and kissing my friends on the cheek and she was really annoyed-especially coz there was two of them- and she doesn't understand that we are just friends. She doesn't want me to see them anymore. It's not fair. I really like them and we're really close friends. What should I do?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): My mum is exactly the same. 'you're too young for a bf! Maybe you should try talking to her and explaining it from your point of view. Prehaps you should alo explain to your guy friends about what is going on so they dont get the wrong end of the stick.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 March 2006):
 Your mum is living in the past.Nowerdays when you have a boy as a freind it dosen't mean you fancy them.But your mumsee's it has wrong and you musn't do it.How are you ever going to find a boyfreind if you are never allowed near them?.I am not telling you to defy your mum but what i am telling you to do is stay freinds with these lads at schoolas they won't understand why you have just fallen out with them all of a sudden.But if it happens that your mum is really,really anoyed at this then i suggest you keep the relationship with your mum then the lads.Good luck i think you may need it.
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (30 March 2006):
 In Roman Catholic Italy one thing I really liked was that the children and teenagers would form groups of friends who stayed friends for life. From that peer group they often selected life partners. Whatever happened, they looked out for each other and behaved responsibly. Your Mum is trying to protect you but she needs to understand that in order to relate to boys you have to spend time with them. Surely she would want you to have a good relationship/marriage at some stage. It would be a shame not to have this chance of practicing interacting in an unthreatening setting. Have you told your Mum that you do not want a boyfriend and do not think of these boys in that way? If there is another adult relative you could talk to it may be helpful. Perhaps some adult negotiation would help. She would probably feel happier if she met the boys some time but slowly ,slowly.
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