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writes:I am 37 year old self made married man with wife and kid. I had a poor living and have been fulflling all responsibilities since years without any expectations and demands even from my wife. Result of this everyone including my wife and others have high volume of expectations from me to which I have come at a stage where I am really frustrated and dont feel like to stay in any relationships. I have no friends or relatives on whom I can trust for genuine advice and solution. How do I overcome with this? Has anyone gone through similar situations? Please help.
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (21 September 2013):
You are burdened my friend and now you have had enough. Why did you allow yourself into this situation to begin with? Make some corrective changes today. You cant be everything to everybody and people who expect that need their heads examined. Dont let anybody abuse you anymore. What good will it be if you end up with a nervous breakdown. Shake off these toxic relations or friends and start fresh. Do it yesterday and dont delay. Move on....
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (20 September 2013):
 You sound a lot like my sister. My sister is a bit OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) when it comes to responsibilities. She feels that if you have to get something done right, might as well do it herself. End result? She's overworked, frustrated, extremely irritable and she complains a lot. Her husband and young daughter bears the brunt of her anger and frustration. However, the reason why I say OCD is because even if she finds someone to share the responsibilities with, she'll find more stuff to put on her plate. She does not feel worthy unless she is overworked, so she is in a constant state of being overworked and frustrated.
Therapy is a good way to figure out why you need to be overworked, or if you don't think you're OCD, therapy is still a good way to figure out why you can't say NO. Saying NO is a very healthy way to set your boundaries.
Why are you a people pleaser? Why can't you trust other people to fulfill some of these duties? Why are you a perfectionist? Why are you burdening yourself? You are the one who is allowing this to happen. You are allowing other people to treat you this way. You have to look inwardly to figure out why you are doing this to yourself. A therapist will help. You will not only be able to get your frustrations out, but you can figure out the cause and overcome whatever fear you have of letting go of some of your responsibilities.
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