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writes:I have been with my boyfriend four years, we are both in our forties have been married previously and I have teenage children. We now plan to move in together. I had felt this was long overdue but my boyfriend did not seem in any hurry. The problem is that I have doubts- stemming from the fact that he seemed to come around to the idea of us living together at a time when he was having a tough time at work and also lost his parents the previous year. He insists he has not changed his mind and is looking forward to us being together, but I get no feeling of excitement from him over what will be a huge step for us both. He says its just that his mind is on other things- he has a huge project which is just finishing, but I still sense a reluctance from him to get on with the process of selling his house. The plan is once he has sold his, we will sell mine and buy togther. I want to feel that he is as excited about the start as me but im just not getting that vibe. He also surprised me by mentioning has has never thought of remarriage. He never mentioned this before and I always thought this would be on the cards one days. To be honest Im not sure what I believe.I feel like if he doesnt really mean this its the end as I dont want to put anymore into something thats not meant to be, but how can I know if its just his way and he'll start getting excited once its really happening. Any thoughts and advice on second families and moving on together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): Even though he says he wants to, I think you should give him some more time. If he can't show even a little excitement about this just because his mind is on other things, that's an indicator. And are you sure you want to take this step when he told you he's never really thought about remarriage which is something you were hoping for? You two should take some more time to figure out what you really want and to be sure about it. Hope I helped.
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