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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl from a different country half a year ago and we decided to move in together. I'm currently living in her apartment. Coming here I knew things were going to be hard since I have no friends, etc. I have a lot of free time compared to her during the week because she is busy with her studies. I accept that and I even cook and clean and refuse to let her do any of the housework just to give her more time to study. Recently she has started to take everything I do for her for granted. And when I forget or postpone something she gets angry. I've tried talking to her but she just says I'm a "drama queen". But the major issue is the time we spend together, which is basically 0. We live under the same roof but we barely talk. When she's not studying she's watching tv or sleeping. I'm not constantly bothering her because of this but from time to time I would like to speak with her for a few minutes. And when I do she either ignores me or gets annoyed. From time to time during the weekends I suggest we do something together but she's always "too tired". But a last minute invitation to a party by one of her friends is fine. I usually go with her and she just leaves me all alone and doesn't try to include me in anything even though she knows I don't know anyone. For months I have tolerated this behavior thinking to myself "she has the right to amuse herself". But recently it has become unbearable. I'm constantly alone and all I ask from her is a couple of hours per month ( I don't even dare to ask for a few hours a week anymore). I show that I love her at every occasion I have. I take care of her the best I can. The only thing I ask in return is the bare minimum and she doesn't even give me that. Last week I cracked and told myself I needed to get away, I started packing but she came home early. Seeing her cry breaks my heart and I just don't have the courage to leave her because she is such a huge part of my life. The problem is I don't know how long I can keep feeling like this. I feel like I'm going crazy.I would really appreciate some serious advice... Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 March 2013):
"I don't know how long I can keep feeling like this."
Well, unless you leave her soon you're going to figure that out. You've met the same fate that a million people in LDR's have before you.
You moved in with someone who you THOUGHT you knew. Never a good idea for reasons you're now finding out.
If you guys really had known each other before hand you might get some advice other than "break up", but because you didn't that's all you're going to hear.
You need to move out at the very least. Then you can see if there is anything to try and save.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): I meant to say a year and a half. No idea how I made that mistake.
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reader, R1  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 You knew her for 6 months then moved to another country to live with her??? Any you are asking why this has gone wrong?!? I think that's fairly obvious. Pack your stuff and leave.
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