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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my relationship with my mother is terrible.We cant stay in the same room without having a arguement. The thing is i dont like her attitude...she screams and shouts a lot over tiny things which makes me mad n i say stuff i shouldnt and it turns into a fight. And also she doesnt let go of things in my past which i want to forget about and she doesnt let me. She just constantly reminds me of it and never trusts me.There are times when i think that i should hug her but im not a huggy/kissy type of person. esp with parents.i really want to improve our relationship but it seems like im the only 1 trying Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Move out.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 You are at an age when many mothers and daughters have falling outs. A lot of it comes from the natural jealousy of two adult women sharing the same house.
Being adult you want to do things your way. Your mom is not used to that and thinks you should be her. There tends to be conflicts over who is best at anything. The big problem is that you will always be best at being young. She is secretly bothered by that.
The best way for you to have a better relationship with your mom is for you to put some distance in it. When you see her only once a week. Those pressures and competitions will fade away.
You wrote quite a bit about what she is doing. Then said you were unwilling to hug her. Then you said you were the only one trying. At least for yourself you should sit down and list the ways you are trying. Then think about whether they are helping, or hurting your mom, in the terms of the competitiveness I wrote about.
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