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*LONSO80
writes:Hi I'm a 28 Y.O man and I've noticed ( and a lot of men notice it too) when I'm in a relationship, some women wanna come and talk to you, even flirt, I see their eyes and they're stripping me naked. When I'm single, I have a hard time for them to notice me, some roll their eyes, and don't even give me the time of day. is it true most women like the forbidden fruit? they want what they can't have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Yes, it's true. They want you right up until until you're single. And whenever their friend gets a BF, then they start wanting that BF. Happens every time.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 April 2009):
No you are reading it wrong.
When you are single girls will not give off signals and be too afraid to relax and have fun because they think you'll think they are interested.
When you have a girlfriend, the girls will see you as "safe" so they'll know they can play and flirt and relax around you because they don't see you that way.
They are not undressing you, they are simply flirting using eye contact in a playful way.
In short, they treat you exactly the same as they would treat a gay man.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I can't speak for everyone, but i can definatley speak for myself and say yes... i always want something i can't have, and if i ever do get it, i don't want it. Again this is only speaking for myself, so you will do good to listen to the advice below xoox
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I find this an inaccurate generalization. My guess is: within your pool of associations females tend to display this characteristic.
I've found there is a market whom represent your theory because of their own and issue(s).
I know plenty of women, including myself, whom want what they can have. These women tend to share the value of appreciating what they have when they have what they want. They do not spend their resources pining for and pursuing uncertainty and frustration.
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reader, bellaaddison  +, writes (24 April 2009):
It's all in the attitude. And I believe it's somewhat subconscious. There is a certain disposition that we carry when we are involved with someone. A sense of security and confidence and believe it or not, that creates an attractive aura. When we are not in a relationship, we tend to alter our sense of self worth, and maybe even self esteem a bit, especially if the previous relationship ended badly- and it shows. Women and men don't necessarily go after what they CAN'T have (although those type of people do exsist) but women and men are drawn to what is "attractive" and that silent confidence that lives within a relationship finds its way through in your every day attitude... maybe there is a hop in your step, a sexy smile on your face, a special gleam in your eye... whatever it may be, that sense of happiness and contentment comes forth and who wouldn't be attracted to that???
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Wow, sounds so like what I notice when I'm with someone.
It's like your a ghost when your single and then Poof, when your involved they can't stay away. I think it's because when you have someone your attitude, energy and that cloud nine thing are going on and people see you in a brighter light. Have a little fun with it and tease them from afar, then leave 'em hanging wondering why they're not good enough for you. ha ha ha ha just kidding, maybe!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Hi there,
As a lady, I've noticed this too. When I'm in a relationship, suddenly I turn into this irresistible babe and it's like, WHERE THE HECK WERE YOU WHEN I WAS SINGLE!?
I think this is because when we're not looking for something, we always find it. Maybe it's because we relax a little more, we're more comfortable in our skin/lives, and yes - we then become the forbidden fruit. Singledom can often give the vibe of desperately looking for a serious relationship (scary), or as a guy, make you look like you're just out to get laid (especially if you say things like: "I see their eyes and they're stripping me naked" - no wonder they're rolling their eyes!). When you're in a relationship, your aura changes.
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