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writes: My fiance and I have been together for about three years and recently got engaged. I love him and I believe he loves me, however, since we decided the relationship was extremely serious I feel that the relationship has alienated me from my friends (he disapproved of some). My family loves him and everyone seems to think we're perfect for each other, but lately I've been having doubts about how viable we are as a couple. At times it seems he doesn't consider or respect my feelings on certain issues. Although he's never cheated on me, I found out (although he had denied it) that he was still in contact with an ex and had denied he was seeing anyone (a real trust-buster). I guess my question is A) Do I break off the engagement even though most of the time when we are together we're extremely happy; and B) If I do stay, how do I get over my trust issues (he's been very honest with me since that time although is at times guarded about some aspects of his personal life) and convey that he hurts me when he doesn't consider my feelings before acting?
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reader, Ruth +, writes (24 April 2005):
I think that to get married you must be 100% sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you can answer without a doubt that you do, then go for it. If you have a niggling in your mind then you really need to think twice. Surely if you're marrying this guy you should be able to discuss your worries with him?
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