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writes:in response to replies posted about my previous posts entitled two sides to every story thankyou for your comments.Yes i have admitted i have a a problem emotionally and im glad i am seeking help for it as for my ex partner i think she needs to do the same and i have mentioned it too her but it get's ignored.My life has been a rollercoaster of ups and down with people who i care deeply about passing away and to an extent i have blamed the whole world for this and have often wondered where's the fairness in life when you have child rapist,murderers,etc.... people who do bad in life still alive. I wish i could make this woman believe i love her but it's difficult when your life is'nt entirely happy itself. Yes i agree about the internet it is a bad influence on anyone's relationship but please when i found this woman and had some wonderfull moments with her i decided she was everything i wanted and that's why i moved so far away i had no common place with where i was moving too and nor did i have any friends there either so guess the internet was my way of keeping in touch with the outside world i was in love but also lonely i guess that sounds kind of weird. As for the i've just found out he's staying with another woman off the internet but he tell's me he is sleeping on the sofa'.it's true i am staying with another woman a FRIEND not a woman who i have any sexual interest in she knows what i was going back into a house of an alcaholic who urinates all over the floor he also has a pet dog that he does'nt look after so that urinates over the floor and leaves feaceas everywhere a house with no heating no hot water a sofa that is falling apart but that's supposed to be my place of sleep. My ex knows all this and so do i maybe that's why i was living in fear of a situation of '' it's my way or the highway''. I'd also like to point out i have been working for the past 11 months of which i have now had to lose because of the emptiness and loneliness of being up north with noone to talk to noone to converse with living a life consisting of getting up going to work coming homes sitting in a room going to sleep getting up going to work coming home sitting in a room am sure you get what i'm saying. I never once stopped her doing anything with her sister's or friends but i don't appreciate a friend coming round every night of the week pouring all her woe's on us when we have woe's of our own and clearly need to sort things out also it would be nice to be included in some of the activities with friends and family. I also think somewhere along the way she forgot to mention her son threatening me with a knuckle duster when he was 14 but i'm supposed to put that too the back of my head because it has no significance and i did i put it too the back of my head got on with it was supposed to live with him day in day out i'm sure she would've loved it if i turned round and said '' he has to go or i will'' i'm damn sure who would of got the boot so ys i was rather upset when she said my son was'nt allowed to be part of us because of something a confused 7yr old at the time of him saying it had said. I'm sorry but as a father i will love my son and stand by him has much as i can even though i had told him to the point of him crying not to lie about things like that it feels like i'm being punished for being a father who actually loves his son and not one who has just walked away and not had anything to do with him. Once again thankyou for responding to my first post it has made me open my eyes a bit but believe me there really is two sides to every story
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (28 February 2008):
 "Once again thankyou for responding to my first post it has made me open my eyes a bit"
Well I'm glad and good luck with everything!
"... believe me there really is two sides to every story"
We know this already :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm not sure if i'm posting this right.I'm the person who has written two sides to every story and i agree with annonymous replier yes i do understand how she feels but also understand she may need help from a proffesional source which i have in the past asked her to get but it's fell on deaf ears you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink!. You are also quite correct we did'nt talk enough but when we tried it always came to '' what ive done for you and what you have'nt done for me'' situation.I'm sorry if it has seemed i'm self obsessed egotystical so and so but i cannot no matter how hard i try make her do things if she does'nt want to. I should've of maybe tried relate like has been mentioned in the past but untill now i guess i've pushed everything under the carpet let's face it alot of people don't admit they have problems untill it's too late
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
I think it is great that you have given your side of the story and everyone who comments on this site do need to understand there is always two sides to a story no matter what..
Talk soon!! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the annoymous reader who has said what about the help she needs?. I have in the past asked her to seek help but it has fallen on deaf ears.How do you get someone to seek help when they deny they have a problem?.Yes your right we did'nt talk enough but our talks always ended up in what i've done for you what you have'nt done for me arguements. She can admit to someone else she has a deep anger to the point of wanting to kill someone but not to me i dearly wish she would get help because i believe we both have a massive trust issue with each other but you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink
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