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writes:My mom won't let me date till im 16. I really like this girl, and she likes me back. I have tried to talk to her about it by like saying that i am mature and stuff like that. What should i do? Wait it out, or go behind her back Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 You don't have much of a wait so stick it out. You don't want to lose your mother's trust, it's worth it's weight in gold. Time will fly.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Just wait, she's just looking out for you. Just think, once your 16 your be fully ready for an relationship, she won't have to worry so much about you as your be older.
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reader, troubled waters +, writes (9 November 2007):
Hello,
Please don't go behind your mums back as that will only prove that you are immature and cannot be trusted. What are your mums reasons for not wanting you to date? Could you find out? Perhaps you could just introduce friends to your mum and include your intended date amongst those friends. Once your mum becomes familiar with your intended date, you could ask your mum (if she likes her) if it would be ok to meet your female friend for coffee/lunch etc. Take things slowly and show your mum that you are responsible and considerate. Also you could consider that your mum may be afraid of losing your affection and admiration, are you an only child? Is your mum a single mum? If there is a dad, perhaps he could help reassure your mum, if not then it is up to you to show your mum that you are not going to put all your time and energy into persuing girls. Good luck.
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reader, Zanza +, writes (9 November 2007):
 I have been in your shoes before. I was 15 and the boy i liked was 17, and to my parents he was too old for me. I did everything I could to be with him. I lied to my parents all the time. And it has to be said, parents find out eventually, no matter what. When they did, it was like WWIII between me and them. Yout dont want to go through all that trouble so just wait it out. You will live lol, and you can be cool with your mom at the same time. Good Luck.
if ya wanna talk about this, mail me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Just how old are you? You have to respect your mum because she has been around a lot longer than you and know what she is talking about. Anyway, you cannot be that far off 16 so be patient and it will be great when the time comes. The other aunts are right, you shouldnt disrespect your mum, she brought you into the world.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): If you do it behind her back, you won't really be able to enjoy it. You'll be paranoid about getting caught and that'll cause problems between you and your girlfriend. I'm not saying I agree or disagree with your mom's rule, but I know that you won't fully be able to enjoy a relationship at your age (not being able to drive, having curfew, etc) if your parents aren't supportive.
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 November 2007):
 You need to wait. Don't be disrespecting you mom. She's doing what she feels is best for you. Believe it or not, moms are generally right.
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