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writes:wow...i really really like this guy and there is a small chance we could date but my mom says she would never let me date him....do i have to stop liking him...go behind my moms back or try force her to let me date him if there was a possibility....she says its just cos he is older than me ....i need help i cant let my mom stand in the way can i ....pls help!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Just a Girl...  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Hey huni Im 16 and my boyfriends 25 so i know the problems you come into being with someone older.At first my mum hated the thought of me being with an older guy because she thought that it was all for sex and that id end up hurt and used. but because we went by her rules and he always picked me up from mine n was willing to meet her, now, 3 months later, she really likes him and were relly happi. i fink that your best bet is to talk to her and to say that you can compromise. you can go out with him if its under her control to begin with.gud luck hunni! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Deffently tell your parents and be honest with them and give them reasons why he is a good person for you, maybe have him meet your parents even that shows that he is mature. Never go behind your parents back, i learned the hard way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): well it would be helpful to let us know what ages u are but, i think you should try and talk it through with your mum first and really try and convince her, let her know that you wont let him force you into anything you dont want to do, if she then does not let you date him then she is being unfair as a mother yes she should be looking out for you but the most important thing to her should be your happiness. If it would helpe let your mother meet him and she could might end up liking him. If she stil does not want you to date him then i think you should anyway because it's your life you have to make your own decisions (or mistakes), but just be aware that eventually everyone gets caught out so it might be better yo be honest. I hope i helped x x x
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reader, xxxkrazykatiexxx +, writes (22 April 2007):
i dated a guy 2 years older then me n we have just broken up after loads of trouble. we made loads of mistakes in our relationship by going behind our parents backs n sneaking out at night. so my advice is don't betray your parents trust as it is one of the hardest things to get back. If you do go out in secret you will somehow be found out n be in more trouble. Try and talk it over with your mom she can't stop you liking this guy but going behind her back isn't the answer, give it time and find out what her greatest concerns r (most likely tht all he wnts is sex) introduce your guy to her and persaude her that he realy is a good guy and hopefully then she will come around.
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