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age
41-50,
*onathanStrange
writes:I'm 27, gay/bi, in a relationship with a guy two years younger. We've been seeing each other nearly two years, it was long distance for most of the time, until I moved to be with him five months ago. We aren't living together, he says it would be weird and he can't ever see himself doing that, and he isn't interested in marriage. He knows I want to get married one day, but also that I was in an intimate relationship with a couple before he and I started going out, and so he knows I have the capacity for nonmonogamy. I'm hardly promiscuous, but I do develop strong romantic attachments to more than one person at a time, you could call it polyamory. But it's something we never discuss, and I don't know how to tell him not to expect monogamy from me. There's nobody else at this point, but there will be at some point, it's pretty much guaranteed. Help!!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 I think you need to tell him sooner rather than later because if he's expecting a serious relationship and then you meet someone else he's bound to feel short changed and betrayed. Just be honest and to the point and hope he understands. It's a big thing to ask someone but the sooner you ask him the sooner you will know for sure what's happening.
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