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writes:hey, well this is a bit long but here goes.. ive got into a bit of trouble with my mum + step dad.. i have a 16 year old bf (to be 17 in march) + im 13 (14 in feb) my parents think hes getting me into smokin, drinkin, drugs + sex but hes not. i suppose its kind of my fault really + ive made some huge mistakes. on saturday we split up + i was really stressed + upset so i smoked a ciggarette. just one out of my bedroom window. my mum saw tobacco on my floor + asked me if id been smoking.. i said no its from my pocket cos my bf rolled a fag + put the packet in my pocket + some fell out which is pretty true. then she said that id put a fag out on my window sill which i hadnt. then she found a lighter which id always had in my room for about a year id never used it up until now. id also had a letter sent home from school because im underacheiving in english.. my mum didnt know about it until she found it.. so she was angry at me for that as well. my mum thinks that me and my bf split up on saturday bcos i wouldnt sleep with him + thats IS NOT the reason, we just had a silly arguement over somethin silly and we're back together now. it was all sorted out until 2nite i got home + all my diaries over the past 3 years were lay out on my bed. i knew my mum had read them + i was really angry that she had. last nite id written a diary entry + it said something lyk this.. "i should have been more careful + cleared the tobacco up from my floor, ripped up the letter and sprayed spray I HATE MY MUM" well anyway she found the diaries and read them.ive got my self into a huge situation bt ive covered my self up with pretty good excuses 4 most of it and it'll teach me nnever to do it again.i just want to be close to my mum again and want her to trust mehelp?xx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 January 2008):
To get someones trust you have to earn it. And you earn it by being an honest person and respectable. You also earn it by admiting when you are at fault and taking responsbility for it, not covering up what you did with excuses or lies, and this is what you are doing.
You mum will trust you when she feels that you can see what you are doing wrong and are able to admit to it and deal with it. So first thing to do, is un cover all your lies or your 'pretty good excuses' as you call them. Tell her everything. Yes she will be angry, but you cant gain trust by hiding things, she will always find out and you wont be close.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Apologize to your mum and tell her ,you love her and realized your mistake. Promised , you will not do those things again and will listen to her .
She will forgive you and in time , you won't feel it coming in between you too.
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