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writes:Okay, I'll try to keep the story as brief as possible. I am an 18 year old girl and I work at a pharmacy and when I take my lunch/dinner breaks I go next door to a bistro. The guys there are all very nice, and the owner frequently visits us and we visit him.There's a younger guy there though, its hard to guess his age, but if I took a guess I'd assume he was anywhere from 21 to 25. He's a very kind person, not the most chatty, but he's friendly enough to people and comes off as confident (but not cocky). Our first interaction was when I was standing behind another customer after I had finished my food and was waiting for one of the other young guys.... and he put his hand on the small of my back and asked me what I needed. That was really the first time I took much notice to him...Sometimes I feel like he's looking at me, but my eyesight is so horrid that its hard to tell whether I've caught him or not! He's always been kind to me and at least it seems to me that he's extra attentive to me than other customers (assisting me more quickly, making my food before the other four girls that were in front of me - could possibly be because he knew I had to get back to work too)... could be just because I'm a regular, but I don't know. One time I completely forgot my money and he allowed me to just get the food and then pay him back another time.He smiles at me and makes brief comments to me (i.e., asking if I wasn't cold the one day I was without a coat, wishing me a nice Christmas in the event that we wouldn't see each other before Christmas, etc. - like I said, he's not very chatty... normally he takes peoples' orders and makes the food and doesn't say much else, so its slightly significant that he actually would say something as small as "oh and if I don't see you before... have a nice Christmas.) One time when he said something I kind of blushed and smiled and he smiled back and just kind of turned around with his head down.... and his coworker looked at him a little funny.He does these things........ but not when the owner is around. Now, I'm not sure if maybe he feels guilty about talking to me when his boss is there, if he just doesn't talk to me because the owner usually talks to me, or if its just a coincidence that he's like this when the owner is around. But it gets to where it feels like he's intentionally ignoring me or avoiding eye contact.... and as a result I do the same. Or, then again, I don't know who is really starting it.I don't feel as though he's intentionally getting kind of cold with me as though its some sort of game... but at the same time I have a hard time thinking it would be shyness (like it is in my case when I do this) because he seems confident...but he doesn't come off as a player because he's just very respectful to me and everyone. I wouldn't think he has a girlfriend, just because he's almost constantly working (nearly every day of the week, opening to close).What are your ideas of what is going on? Is he playing? Is he confused about me? Is he confused about himself? Is he taken? Is it maybe that I'm young? It just doesn't seem normal to be friendly (maybe more than friendly) and then just ignore someone sometimes if its just simply friendliness....
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 I also need to add that all the little things he does can mean something or they can mean nothing. We don't know the guy and so we can't read his actions. You don't know him either and what to you could mean he's sending you signals could mean nothing to him...or it could mean something...see, if you keep going in circles, you get nowhere.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (10 January 2010):
You are so overthinking all this. You have all these questions that none of us on here can answer. You like the guy and it seems you're thinking about him all the time.
Here's some advice. If you want him, then go and get him. Make a plan to suss out who he is, does he have a gf, does he like you. Put all your energies into finding all this out...thinking about it, analyzing and asking us on here will not get you anywhere. I've been there and done that and it just drives you mental.
You say many times what you think about him but that's all your own opinions only and they could be wrong or they could be right. We have no idea.
If you want more...go and get it.
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