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writes:Me and my boyfriend are currently in a long distance relationship and have been for a month. We are 15 years old and live 700 miles apart. We talk everyday, and in no means are growing apart. We grow closer everyday. We have known each other for 2 years and started out as very good friends and over time our relationship has progressed to where it is now. We are so in love. That's our first problem. All of our friends are constantly putting us down and saying we can't be in love at 15 and that its not going to last forever. This really hurts both of us that none of our friends support us and can share in our love. We're so misunderstood. We didn't go about this relationship childishly and we are both very mature for our age, and both of us have the same view that the point of dating is to find a potential spouse. Neither of us are looking for a stupid high school "fling" but we want to find a person to marry. If we wanted to "have fun" with people our own age, we wouldn't have a long distance relationship because we don't want that. We only want each other. Basically, all we need is hope that anything is possible. We're both so dedicated and the only thing that's really changed about us in our whole lives, is that we got more mature. We both know what we want out of life, and we both have good honest and mature conversations daily. This feels so real, and we know we are in love. So the help I need is: 1)Can 15 year olds be in love? We need hope... 2)How can we deal with the fact that none of our friends are optimistic about this and are constantly putting us down?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Thank you guys so much for these answers! You reallly gave us alot of hope! (:
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reader, anonyanne +, writes (25 August 2010):
Does it matter if your friends care? If you love each other, it shouldn't matter what a bunch of high schoolers have to say about it!
Some people don't believe you can love at such a young age. I don't know. I started dating my boyfriend when I was 15, and fell head over heels within a year. I'm still with him and love him more than anything.
My parents met at 15 and 16 and are still together, happily married and in love, decades later.
My point is, even if you're unsure if you can be in love at 15, you certainly can have a relationship at that age where you end up loving them.
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reader, VikkiDec1 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 You are only 15 and shouldn't be looking for someone to marry yet, its way too early. You can definately be in love when your 15 and its great you guys are doing this, but just make sure you both are 100% comfortable and happy with this decision. It can be hard to cope with the distance and people always will tend to think these kinds of relationships never work. If you and this guy are completely happy and in love, then screw what other people think and go for it. You only live once and you are young. Just have fun with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): I am currently in a long distance relationship with a nice young lady. I think you two should have hope and not feel like you two are too young to feel love. If your *friends* are putting you down you might need to change who you associate with but otherwise ignore them. If you two have been communicating for over two years now then its probably not a crush or infatuation, so I would recommend that you two decide if you are going to " commit " fully to one another and figure out how to make that happen. Good luck, the distance can be hard but keep up the communication and supporting one another, it might come to it that in a little while you might have to move to have one another.
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