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writes:hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it could possibly be because there were a few rumors going around about us. It got worse everyday and I felt like he didnt want to talk to me. This went on for a month and is still happening. I told one of my friends who is also a good friend of his and she said i should talk to him and sort it out but I didnt have to courage to and i felt extremely intimidated by him. He never tried to fix it either. A week or two later, I found out he had told someone else that he thought that I wasn't talking to him. Its a huge misunderstanding. Day by day it got really messy and ugly as more people got involved and i heard that he said some bad things about me which really hurt me. Yet, i still want to fix it and be friends again to do away with all the awkwardness. Im new to this school and i dont want to be in a fight with anyone. Should i do something about it or leave it be considering he said something about me that really hurt? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just wanted to add updates on the situation: i finally spoke to him and said that i was sorry for anything i had done and that we should call the whole thing off. he apologised too and overall he took it well now i want to know, after having this conversation, how am i supposed to act toward him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): There's no real tip. He's just a guy like any other guy, he just means a little bit more because you know him better. Why waste energy on being nervous and scared of things that have not happened. Better to spend that energy on saying to yourself that you will talk to him. You may be nervous, may do clumsy things but if you get your message across, then what else does it matter. He may not understand, he may be happy, sad, confused or whatever, but still then at least you did what you thought would be impossible. Why waste more time than you already have, just say you want to talk with him privately or find him in an area you can be personal with him and let it all out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much! I know it eventually boils down to this but im still extremely scared to go up to him. Any tips on how to work up the courage?
thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): thanks so much for the answers. I know it will eventually come down to this but im soooo scared to go to him.
any tips on how ican work up the courage?
thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): The more "friends" you involve, the worse this will get. You have to work up some courage and just talk to him if you ever want to have this sorted. Some damage may already be done but it will only get worse if you don't stop it choose to ignore it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
There's too much rumour here. Neither of you have spoken to each other because you both think you've said and done bad things. But you've heard all this from other people, not each other. You need to talk to him because only he can tell yoou what went wrong. Go to him.
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