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*ylangov19
writes:Dear CupidI have always have had tust issue. I am from a big family and am the youngest so watching my brother and sisters go from bad relationship to bad relationship has give me trust issue and have broken up with all my boyfriend's within the fist week. Now I am in a relationship that lasted a month my trust issue have come back what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura_88 +, writes (17 May 2016):
I grew up where my mum had an affair. This led to me choosing the wrong type of man as I was scared of getting hurt as I'd witnessed as a child. I met a man 10 years ago who changed my life. I didn't give him a chance for months, kept him at arms length but you know what? He hung around. He waited. He didn't go elsewhere. That was what I needed to witness, that not all relationships are toxic and destructive. If your man gives you no reason to doubt, trust him. If he does, what have you lost? You may lose a diamond amongst all those stones. You deserve to let yourself be happy x x
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (16 May 2016):
 We live in a world where more relationships break than sustain. From celebrity marriages to everyday people around us, most marriages and relationships do not work and people part ways. Does that mean that people are losing faith in the institution of marriage?
Dont compare yourself to others, every single relationship is different. This is exactly why millions of people everywhere around the world take that leap of faith, say "yes" to a new beginning and say their vows, just because they have that hope in themselves that they can make it work and find everlasting love and companionship.
Don't let other peoples bad pasts or horror stories get to you. For every relationship or marriage that ends in disaster, there's also a happy story of true love.
Unless you actually find a reason to not trust your partner, just don't jump on the bandwagon assuming the worse, that just because its happened to everyone else that you know of, its probably happening to you too.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 May 2016):
 You know, I grew up with a Dad who cheated on my mom and I didn't distrust the people I dated till they did something to make me distrust them.
Your siblings relationships are theirs. YOU can not stop trusting someone because OTHERS did bad things. That isn't fair.
GO slow when developing a relationship. Get to know them well. Spend time together, learn what values, norms, and morals they stand for.
I'm not say you should blindly trust a person you are dating either, trust takes time to build, so does mutual respect and LOVE.
WORK on yourself. Learn how to not be ruled by distrust. Learn what boundaries, values, norms and morals work for you and DATE people whom you can SHARE those with.
With this new relationship, it's been a month. So longer than your previous ones. Figure out what it is that is niggling you in the back of your mind. It's NOT just about your siblings relationships, I think. There is more to it. And YOU need to figure out what THAT is.
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